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Autism or normal toddler behaviour?

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Doododoo · 12/10/2022 14:28

My 17 month old DD has refused all food that isn't purée since 6 months old, she'll occasionally eat crispy things such as melty puffs, cheerios, biscotti etc but everything else she puts in her mouth she immediately spits out. She won't even touch fruit.

Paediatrician says it's a sensory thing and he thinks she could be autistic and will review again when she can talk (she makes mama and dada sounds only so far). He’s basing this on her food refusal and observing her during the hour long appointment.

She has sensory issues surrounding her feet, if she steps on something such as a wipe that's been left on the floor, some crumbs she will lift her foot up and cry and cry for ages. She used to have problems with long sleeves but that seems to have passed now. She's recently started lining up items such as purée pouches, bottles, similar types of toys and will repeatedly line them up, she repeats a lot of actions again and again like stepping in and out of the kitchen, walking up and down the hallway, slapping her ears or pulling her hair. She laughs and smiles when happy but she does not ever smile back at me or family or strangers when they smile first. She wakes hourly and always has done. But this is my first child and I'm not sure what's a cause for concern and what's just normal bonkers toddler behaviour.

I'm wondering what other signs of autism I should be looking out for at this age (17/18 months) as she doesn't seem to have any of the symptoms I've read about. She responds to her name, she makes eye contact just fine etc

Not sure what I’m asking for really just want someone to tell me what they think

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Vittoria123 · 08/08/2024 17:24

CrushingAndClueless · 13/10/2022 22:21

My son is 5 and eating has always been an absolute nightmare. From as soon as we started weaning her would only eat certain things and at the age of 5 he’s no different. He’s very sensitive to the texture of food.

He’s also got a really heightened sense of smell.

He used to hate getting his hands dirty and he’d really cry about it and he still gets a bit strange if he accidentally drops any food on himself. He also used to hate warmth on his skin, I.e if I took a pair of socks off the radiator and went to put them on his feet he’d have some kind of meltdown.

His behaviour has certainly had strange aspects to it…..I can’t even put my finger on it…there just seemed to be something different about him compared to other children. He also seemed very emotionally immature and came across much younger than he was, even when he was playing. Me and my husband have had numerous chats over the years about whether he may be on the spectrum.

Prior to starting school he was with a childminder for just under 4 years and I had so many talks with her about my worries and she said that although this attitude to foods/textures may be a concern, she was happy he was completely within the realms of normal for everything else.

He’s just started school and is doing really well and according to the teachers he’s perfectly behaved and loves to learn.

Despite his earlier issues he now doesn’t mind so much about getting his hands dirty., I.e he’s happy doing arts and crafts and getting glue, glitter and paint all over him. He’s also quite happy playing on the beach and having sand stuck to him whereas a few years he would never have been okay with that.

He was also very slow to talk which always worries me but now he doesn’t stop and has a quite an extensive vocabulary.

He also now loves wearing clothes that come fresh and warm from the radiator!

My worries are definitely easing as I see his quirks start to fade and his behaviour starting to normalise….which I think is probably being with his peers at school whereas at the childminders the other children were much younger than him.

Prior to him starting school I spoke to the teacher about concerns I had about him possibly being on the spectrum so I’m looking forward to speaking to her about it at parents evening next week.

I have come to accept that if he is on the spectrum then it’s certainly not causing him any huge issues and if his only problem for now is going to be a issues with eating then I’m happy with that.

Other than that I shall just see how things pan out as time progresses….

How’s your son now ? Going through the same things my my DD ☺️

Sunshine9218 · 09/08/2024 21:08

Autism presents really differently in everyone, and is much harder to spot in girls unfortunately.

You can also have sensory processing issues without the language and social elements of Autism.

As long as she is developing OK and eating enough/variety to grow and be healthy I wouldn't worry as there are so many types of Autism.

I'm pretty sure I am but I'm 32, qualified teacher, doing my masters, married with a house, daughter and car so it doesn't always limit what you can do!

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