Hi,
I posted a thread about my in laws a few months back. Things are better, but I’m now having issues with my own parents. Yesterday, I was at my mums and took my 6 month old and my dog. It started off with my mum feeding the dog hot dogs, I asked her not to and said it makes him unwell and she just shoved the hot dog in his mouth anyway. She then is holding my son, I asked for him back, and she hugs him tighter and said no? After the situation with the in laws, I just took him back and said I’m nipping this in the bud. I go into the kitchen and I see cold and flu tablets, I ask my mum who they’re for, as I asked nobody to go round my son unwell if they know they are unwell. She said she just got them on the sale for 50p and stocking up over winter. I said tell me the truth and she said your brother isn’t well and asked me to get tablets, my brother is in the house and was holding my son the day before (he still lives there). I said to my mum I was leaving and she follows me outside and she said ‘see you in 2 weeks then when we’re all better!’ And I said to her I won’t be seeing her for a long time. She then texts me saying ‘ever heard of an immune system ffs?’ Called me a ‘vindictive bitch’ and ‘see you in the spring’ and ‘you can go to hell’. My brother then texts me and said I’ve made everything worse by saying I won’t see her for a while. My dad phoned me and said ‘I hope he gets the cold!’ And things like this don’t bother him.
im annoyed because my mum lied to my face? She said they were 50p and she was stocking up? I’m annoyed that I asked all my family at the start please stay away if you’re sick. Baby was premature, spent 2 weeks in special care. My dad told my my mum didn’t tell me because she didn’t want to me to worry. They are totally missing the point and none of us have spoken since.
i feel like she constantly tries to wind me up / gets under my skin, especially with the hot dog situation, not giving DS son back, always telling me that my parenting style is wrong (she told me not to pick DS up when he’s crying as he knows what he’s doing). I told her babies don’t have the mental capacity to manipulate, he needs me and crying is his way of communicating.
currently weaning breast feeding and she said ‘when are you giving this up?’ I don’t want to give it up, but my supply has dropped. All my family tell me it’s time for formula it’s been 6 months, he doesn’t need breast milk anymore.
its been like this for as long as I can remember, even before my son. My partner has told me that my mum genuinely looks annoyed whenever I walk into a room - is this normal?
They were so supportive when he was just born.
not really sure what I’m looking for with this thread - opinions I guess?