When to remove comforter?

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Daughter 27 months uses a sock and vest as comforters. Heavily reliant on them when tired, upset or going to sleep. I don’t mind her using them but wonder when does it become less acceptable in public around her peers?

I don’t notice that many other kids I know around her age still use them and don’t want her to become the odd one out as she gets older and it become a struggle to get rid of them. Would like it to be more of a natural progression.

Have tried on occasion to reduce use during the day but it feels mean as she’s still only little and they do no harm.

She’s not three yet. She’s a baby and comforters are totally acceptable for years longer. Be guided by her, not your worries about social acceptability.

It's fine, just leave her. Pick your battles, this is one you don't need!

I wouldn't personally remove them. In my experience they get used less as they get older. My son still sleeps with his (he's 7) but he hasn't needed (wanted) them outside the house since he started nursery at 3. If it's a comfort then I see no harm. Your lo will likely need it less and less as they get older.

I would leave it as long as possible. Don't take away what works for them. They will drop it when they are ready.

My eldest son aged 9 still sleeps with his childhood teddy. My youngest ages three sleeps with his comforter. It hasn't crossed my mind to remove them. I'd just leave her.

When they stop being a comfort.

Ours just always stayed in bed as a sleep aid and DD dropped it at 3.

Never, why would you want to remove something that gives comfort?

As she gets older you can say only in the house but she is currently tiny.

I think you wrote your own answer: ‘She’s still only little and they do no harm.’ 😊

It's her comforter, her choice when she feels she doesn't need it. When she is older she will be able to judge peer reactions and that may affect her decision.

Just leave it our ds was obsessed with his comforter at that age couldn’t even be in a different room to it. When he went to nursery at 3 he was ok leaving it at home and then it became just for bed/nap time and by 7 he didn’t need it to sleep. No trauma no taking it away he just reduced it himself.

My 8 year old still uses his comforter!!
No need to ever take it away imo, they'll drop it when they are ready

My son doesn’t take his comforter out of the house since we lost one when out and about( we had 3) now he knows Lamby stays at home but as soon as he gets in he’s on the hunt for it. He’s 2

Thanks everyone. Think I should have been a bit clearer, I’ve no issue with her having a comforter, especially at home - she can have it as long as she wants. I just wanted to gauge people’s thoughts mainly on use outside the house. I’m just thinking ahead and don’t want her to be the odd one out, I was always that kid and it just sticks in your head

My two sons, aged 5 and 8 still have their comforters and have to sleep with them.

Even when they’re both sitting on the sofa watching TV they have their comforters in their hands.

I think it’s adorable and I wouldn’t dream of taking their comforters away. They can make that decision in their own time.

Never. Even when they are out and about. My DS is autistic and wanders around everywhere with a stick. That is his comfort item.

I would never remove them in or out of the house . My kids all have a comforter and like someone said above as they have gotten older and older they have used them less and less. So at 2-3 they can’t be parted. 3-4 pretty close friends. But from 4 ish mainly just at night but out and about sometimes. And then from 5 ish just to sleep with / when poorly or just not themselves.

I see them as a ‘me’ substitute or a confidence booster. Don’t take them off your child, I know you might feel funny about them out and about with them but I’d be child led on this one. They will be choosing to take them with for a reason. I also think in my experience they chose to leave them behind when they are ready.

You remove them when they stop needing comfort ie never

But you can limit where the DC takes them once they are school age (eg perhaps bedroom and sofa only, out of the house only if you're spending the night away)

And for heavens sake get spares, so that it one gets lost on holiday it's not the end of the world.

Don't worry. DD is 7 and I've just put her comforter back in bed with her as it's fallen out when she's asleep. It's one of those small blankets with an animal head on and it rattles. She stopped taking it out in public around age of 3 maybe? If she sleeps at Nana's she takes it. If she goes to camping with beavers she takes it and puts it in the bottom of her sleeping bag in case she feels she needs it at bedtime and she can secretly cuddle it. I still have my 30 year old blanket.

Also we did buy spares just in case. Word of warning though she found the spares and now has 3 😂

I sucked my thumb until I was 14. I took Big Ted to University, and he is now upstairs in the back bedroom. I managed to leave him behind on my honeymoon!

I still have my childhood Teddy & I'm 56, he has seen me through some of the saddest times in my life, losing grandparents, my auntie, late dp & my dad, I wouldn't part with him for anything even though he is threadbare & has lost all his fur ( he had major surgery last week to sew all his holes up)