There is a lady I met via the school gate that I’ve always got on great with. We have always chatted lots when waiting to drop our children off at school as we are both often early due to the distance we both live from the school/picking them up, our children always got on well and we have actually socialised together a fair few times, both with our children and without. She has always been a little unreliable, as in she has quite a few times cancelled arrangements last minute and often doesn’t respond to messages but when I see her she is always super chatty and keen to make plans, which I have always found confusing. In recent weeks she has ignored any messages I’ve sent her and I am certain she is avoiding me at school - she has started sending her teenage daughter to pick her child up which she has never done. I also saw her in the local coffee shop and she very obviously hurried out before ordering anything. So she is clearly avoiding me. For context I have been nothing but kind to her, my children are nothing but kind to her children (if anything actually her kids can be a bit mean to mine at times but that’s another story!) so it’s not as if I could have done anything to offend her. The first time she went through a stage of ignoring me I worried I had done something wrong but I’ve come to accept she is an unreliable person and I suppose I’ve accepted she is not a good a friend as I had thought she was.
if you were me, would you call her out on this strange behaviour? Or would you just quietly step away from a friendship that clearly was only ever one sided?