I have a 7 month old baby and an almost 3 year old and a 2 bedroom house.
DS2 sleeping through with occasional cry in the night mostly if teething but a hug and dummy is enough, doesn’t need feeding.
DS1 sleeping through again mostly, had been times when ill that he would get up and be awake messing about for hours but he’s not done that for a few months. He has a gro clock that is set for 6am. Since dropping his nap he’s normally asleep between 6.30-7pm and wakes up 6-7am. Has a stair gate on his room and would sometimes shout for us before 6am but would go back to bed until his light was yellow. Not napped in 9 months, if he does he’s awake until 10-11pm messing around and shouting/ screaming if we leave the room.
He has had the owl with white noise in his room since he was a baby and that comes on with any noise.
It’s been 3 weeks now of baby being in DS1s room. DS2 has a loud cry and at first DS1 was sleeping through it and it was never for long, we would wait 30-60 seconds to see if he went back off with the white noise coming on if not we went in and he settles immediately. This wasn’t every night and when it happened only once or sometimes twice in the night.
For the last week DS1 has woken at every cry/ noise, if it’s before we have gone to bed we catch him before he leaves the room (have been leaving the stair gate open so he doesn’t shout and wake the baby) and he’ll settle quickly once DS2 has settled. If we have gone to bed he has now taken to coming into our bed which he has never done. Sometimes he’ll go to sleep but mostly he’ll mess around getting in and out of bed. We haven’t been putting him back to his own bed because he’d shout and tantrum and we didn’t want him to disturb the baby if he was asleep.
It isn’t clear who is waking up who during the night and the pattern seems to be if DS1 is woken early in his sleep (before 10pm) he’s more likely to get up in the night and come to our bed.
DS1 is exhausted (as are we) but he won’t nap and I’m worried if he does he’ll go back to not going to sleep at night again.
DS1 goes to sleep first, he’s so tired he’ll sometimes fall asleep during a story on my lap and I normally wake him up and he’ll walk to his bed so he knows I’m going and he’ll go straight back to sleep. He is now so exhausted though and I can’t wake him up and I have to put him in his bed. I’ve tried not sitting with him and him in his bed but he just talks, messes around and doesn’t listen and will tantrum if I go out the room.
DS2 is good at going to sleep, he has a dummy but will mostly still go to sleep if that comes out. He talks and rolls about and takes him about 10 minutes to put himself to sleep.
Everything I have read is saying that they will get used to each other and learn to sleep through each other’s noises but it seems to be getting worse not better. Can anyone see where we are going wrong? There isn’t room in our room for DS2 cot and he’s outgrown the next to me.