Getting in a bit of a state about pulling my son out of nursery!

[upandmumming]

Ah I know I'm being dramatic but I just can't decide and I've stalled for so long we nearly lost our place

My son goes to mornings at the local school 3 days a week (5 mins from our house) he is 3 so it's just half days

On the 2 days where I work he goes to his private nursery still (half hour from house as it's by my work)

From January I'm on maternity leave so he is going to leave nursery then anyway and go to school for the 5 days (mornings)

Because it's funded anyway, and it'll give me a bit of a break I was thinking of having him do 1 full day a week in the school in their afternoon paid clubs once I'm on maternity leave. These clubs are booked up pretty far in advance but I've managed to get a space for the 2 days a week when I work. They agreed to hold them for 4 weeks so I could give his nursery notice and that was 4 weeks ago and I've not done it. I just can't bring myself to?! He does enjoy school but he loves his nursery and his little friends there and they've been so brilliant with him. As far as I know his school seems lovely but you don't find out much do you, it's just very different, I don't know. I don't worry about him spending a whole day in nursery as he's used to it and he's with the same people but I get nervous at the thought with the school and all the different clubs and people leaving throughout the day while he stays

The school emailed and asked if he's starting this week on his full days, I explained that there's been a delay our end and could they reserve until after half term, they have kindly agreed so I need to hand in nursery notice.. why can't I do it?! It's the logical option and makes total sense right? Or is there a reason I'm clinging on to it and maybe it's not right?

The clubs have space now even though he could still stay in nursery but by the time I go off on May leave they may not have space so my plan was to swap him now and then drop 1 day (if he wants to) when I go off so he only goes1 full day.. if that makes sense

Sounds like you have a sentimental attachment to the nursery which I understand! Ultimately it’s so far away I really think you’ll need to give notice as it wouldn’t make sense to travel there with a newborn while you’re on mat leave.

If you don’t feel comfortable with a full day, why not increase the half days at first? That would probably be easier for your little one and still mean a small break for you. Then in Jan you might feel ready to try a full day.

Presumably in Sept 23 he would go to the local school for reception anyway? So instead of framing it as you're pulling him out of his nursery as it's more convenient whilst you're on mat leave, why can't you frame it as you're helping him settle into his new school environment better by going "all in" there? I also agree with the other poster - can he do 5 half days at school nursery until Christmas then you might feel readier to send him to some of the club's too?