My three year old dd was beautifully potty trained by about 2 and a half years old but it didn't last. She's now three and a half and is regularly pooing in her pants. She's just pooed on the stairs which was the last straw. She has also wee'd in her pants today, but this is less frequent.
I've been through various options.
Attention seeking? Likely. We've now got a nine month old ds, she's started nursery school in the mornings and possibly is looking for extra attention. We have tried to remedy this by pretty much ignoring the pooing and giving her attention at other times...
Physical problem? She does seem to be a little confused physically. She can be DESPERATE for a poo, clutching trousers etc and then when she gets to the loo she says 'it's gone', 'I don't need one now' etc. If I make her sit there for a while she gets very upset and I believe it's not a good thing to fight about toilet training. If I can persuade her to sit there for a while, we have had some success after about 10 minutes. OR she can hold on for a day or so.
I feel like we've tried everything, but perhaps that's bad in itself as it can't be too consistent - we've been cross and stopped tv and video for 10 days until she managed one in the toilet. We've ignored it. We've rewarded the successes. I'd be grateful for any thoughts of anyone who's been through similar.
Cheers,
Elandjacksmum