Crying all day and I'm struggling

[Mamabear04]

DS is 12 weeks old and has been crying for what feels like 2 days straight. He had his rota virus vaccine a week ago and just seems to have had a sore tummy because of it. He's had four poonami's today. Naps have gone to shit. Can't get him down to sleep. Is up all night. DD is 3yo and has been having tantrums all day. Lost the ability to hear me when I speak. Just outright naughty behaviour on a day I need a break. The noise is just too much. DS is also been really hard to BF and DD keeps shoving toys in my face. I just feel absolutely empty and have nothing left to give and dreading going to bed for the night shift and then having to wake up and do it all again...

I was in a similar position as you 3 months ago with a needy 3 year old and a very unhappy 3 month old and almost at breaking point. I just wanted to reassure you, you have almost made it through the worst bit. Get as much help as you can during the day.

I didn’t realise until baby was 16 weeks but I was suffering post natal depression and anxiety. If you are feeling overwhelmed and struggling it is worth trying to speak to someone.

You may be going into the 4 month sleep regression with poor naps and difficulty getting them to sleep but it won’t last too long. Soon your baby will be sleeping better and once you are not completely knackered, things seem alot more manageable xx

Really feel for you OP. My DCs are much older now but I still vividly remember the constant crying, it distressed me and made me feel anxious and overwhelmed like nothing has since.

Agree with other reply that hopefully you’re past the worst of it now, hang on in there. Do whatever you need to do to get through it, whether it means letting 2yo have unlimited iPad time, play baths or whatever. Just go into survival mode.

Is there anyone who can give a bit of support, either by looking after your older one out of the house, or just coming round to be an extra person to help you feel less alone with it? Or even meeting up with another mum. Sometimes having an extra person shifts the dynamics and makes it easier.

Good luck, you will get through this.