How did you decide whether to try for number two?

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I’ve been blessed with my beautiful DD who is still a baby. It’s probably a moot point as we found it hard to conceive DD but I’m debating whether to try for another one soon. I’m an older Mum (over 40) so don’t have the luxury of time. Two children would be my ideal family eventually but I’m terrified of the initial stage with two young children as I’m no super Mum and we don’t have much family support. Wondering if I should just count my blessings and be happy with one. Anyone been in a similar situation and how did you decide?

I just knew after one that I wasn't done. I knew straight away when number two was born that I didn't want more.

it was a decision because i couldnt imagine loving a baby as much as my first, but i made the decision to have another, and then another

Are you trying to decide whether to have 2 at all or trying to decide when to try for a second? We always knew we wanted more than one and started trying when DD was about 9mo. It would have beem easy to talk ourselves out of a second based on the newborn stage and having to do that again but this time with a toddler but we've gone for it beause we want DD to have a sibling and long term it will hopefully be worth it although really hard work to start with.

Trying to decide whether to try at all for a 2nd one knowing it would need to be a small age gap since I’m already 41. We would have started earlier but It took years to conceive our DD. I have heard some people experience a fertility burst after their first and that might be our best chance of conceiving again.

Only one so far but we both want another one in the near-ish future. We both want our son to have a sibling and we both always wanted two.

Just remember that toddler and newborn struggles are temporary: a second child is forever.