Baby refusing dummy - help!!!

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Unfortunately my 3 month old has started to refuse a dummy after previously loving it. We just had a screaming car journey yesterday and there was nothing I could do to console her. previously on car journeys she would happily take the dummy when she got upset.

What can I do in this situation to help her?

or any tips to get her to take the dummy again? I’ve tried putting some breast milk on it and gripe water but she still won’t take it and I’ve tried loads of different brands of dummy - she previously took a MAM.

Could she be teething?

help her find her thumb?

My kids never had a dummy 🤷🏻‍♀️ in some situations it can be more challenging.....

Maybe they're teething? You could try a small washcloth damp put in the freezer. Sometimes they like that better than teething toys

Simple dint give her a dummy! Try to find out why she is crying?

@OutofControl3 she was crying because she was hungry but I couldn’t feed her as we were in the car. Usually dummy would smooth her until we got home. Just wondering what you can do to soothe instead. She seems far too young to be teething - just turned 3 months. Also damp washcloth doesn’t seem portable either.

Just because she wouldn't take a dummy on 1 occasion (hen she was hungry) doesn't mean she won't ever take one again.

Oh and dont encourage thumb sucking like a pp said 🤦🏼‍♀️

well she was demanding feeding so that is natural op.
she needs to demand her feeds and that is the only way she knows

She’s been refusing the dummy for weeks now. At home I can obviously feed her if she needs to be fed or soothe her to sleep a different way but the car was a nightmare as I couldn’t feed her and she screamed the entire way instead of just taking dummy like she used to which soothes her enough until I am able to feed. Just wondering what others do when baby won’t take a dummy but they can’t meet their needs straight away!

We just plan journeys around feeding times (as best we can) to avoid melt downs, or just put up with them until we arrive at our destination. It’s only happened a handful of times though!
my midwife read me the riot act when I asked about dummies for breast fed babies! They’re getting so militant these days I swear!

i think dummies arent the answer, they are disappointing i imagine, because they suck, yet there is no food

Neither of mine took a dummy. To be honest you pull over feed (service station ect) or put up with the screaming. It’s horribly stressful but doesn’t last forever.

Pull over and feed her in the car 🤷‍♀️

I fed mine all over the place, Asda car park was memorable as she was really hungry so we were there ages

In the car it could be car sickness..... my first was terrible...... 😵‍💫 it only improved when she moved out of the baby car seat and we put the new seat facing forward. But you could try some new dangling toys. Or in last resort a phone 🤷🏻‍♀️ Dave and Ava app is my best suggestion.

Btw teething could be early. My kids started it at about 4months. Check the lower gums for some redness.

why would you force a dummy on a child? Makes no sense. You'll soon understand the different cries and what they mean, if you actually listen instead of shoving a dunny in at every opportunity

Mine refused dummy from around 7 weeks once breastfeeding was fully established.

I still tend to feed to sleep/comfort despite best efforts not too

mine usually sleeps in car no problem but on a recent long trip we got stuck in traffic resulting in loud crying out of boredom and hunger. I just tried to entertain with toys and pats (hard as I was in front passenger seat) until we could pull over at next services to feed him.

We didn't use a dummy. I just would have fed when they needed it. Sometimes you just need to pull over and do it.

It could be teething - my DS started at just over 3 months. It makes everything 50% more stressful for the baby and you - eg won't feed until really hungry because teeth hurt, so only asks for food when ravenous and uncomfortable, and can't be soothed with the dummy for a couple of minutes until you get somewhere appropriate to feed.

DS got much less keen on his dummy too, chews at it instead of sucking, or chews his fists. If you think it could be teething, try giving Calpol - if your baby is suddenly much happier 15 min later it's probably teeth!

In terms of teething toys for a 3 month old, the only thing I've found helpful is a couple of small soft toys - one is a jellycat dinosaur - which he can hold and chew. Most specific teething toys like Sophie la Giraffe are too rigid, heavy or fiddly for him to be able to get comfortably into his mouth.

I would just feed her and then do your car journey. She's crying from needing food, not just being fussy. Mine was never keen on dummies, but we didn't delay feeding him so it wasn't an issue.

I never gave either of mine a dummy and just fed them as soon as I could when they were hungry. Sometimes that meant pulling over and feeding in the passenger seat, sometimes that meant they cried for a bit.

At about 3m they're much more aware, they're not going to be fooled by a dummy if they're hungry, and a breastfed baby is quite likely to reject a dummy anyway because it's just not as good as the real thing.

It sounds as though she was hungry and wanted to be fed, not soothed.
My little girl sometimes used to take a dummy during the day to calm down and then spit it out. Never really took to a dummy.