I'm not sure what to do, my husband of 10yrs just told me that he finds our child (who's 8) annoying and he often doesn't want her. He never wanted kids...he's told me repeatedly over the years that he didn't but he agreed to have her at the time. Over the years it's been pretty clear he's never really wanted to be a dad yet at times he does seem to love her. A second child was obviously never on the cards for this reason and I got past that...but now he's said what he's said I can't look at him in the same way. I was upset after he told me (for my daughters sake more than mine) and he said "ffs". .like I'm in the wrong for being upset over this. He's been gaslighting me for years but this feels like the final straw. He doesn't deserve us frankly and it feels like time to walk, as impossible as that is. His expectations of children are reduculous, he has such high standards he has no friends and falls out with everyone. I'm the only one that puts up with him.
Not sure why I'm posting this, I guess I'm in shock that he's said what he has said about her...although it feels like for a long time he's had little interest in me. I feel so bad for her, she's a great kid and deserves better.