kids party

[bernfinn89]

so my little one 6 has a friend in school theyve known each other since preschool.. i gotten to know his mother well over the years. i regularly drop him home when shes working to save her elderly mother walking in the rain etc. as she minds him when her daughter works..so 2 weeks ago she mentioned his bday party was ment to be today and said she would txt times and that closer to the time.. she text at the start of this week asking cud we drop her son home and her car was there at the house when we pulled up, she wud usually come out to say thanks etc. but didnt this time.. anyway party is ment to be today we got a card etc my little boy really excited.. no text message from her and seen her at the school gate she just smiled said hi and kept walking..i taught maybe the party was cancelled but my little one said other boys in his class said it was today at 4 o clock.. hes obviosuly been uninvited... im so dissapointed for him.. am i entitled to be angry here.. i wont say it to her but i think shes a cheeky b...h!!! to let him think he was invited and leave him to listen to all his friends excited for it..

Class party invites are tricky politics but sounds like she dangled an invitation under your nose and then snatched it away. If you’ve got the confidence then I’d definitely ask her what happened. I’m so sorry your little boy is sad, can you take him somewhere nice to distract?

To be honest I would just ask, she might be under the impression that you know the ti
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Well I wouldn't be doing any more school pick ups for her.

i think the fact she didnt come out to say hello when i droppped him home earlier in the week was her way of avoiding having to say anything.. she would usually stop and chat and didnt today so its obvious shes avoiding the subject.. if he was never invited in the first place i wudnt be angry just the way shes gone about it is shitty i think

This is like the wedding thread from earlier this week!

Just ask. She mentioned the party to you so wants you there and probably thinks she texted you and doesn't realise you don't know the time. Or maybe she made a WhatsApp group and forgot to add you. Just say "hey friend, just double checking the time of the party today, is it 4pm?"

Worst case she says "oh god I'm so sorry I don't have space" in which case at least you know.

No you can't assume she didn't come out to say hello because of this - it could be, or it could be one of the million other reasons someone might not come out. Maybe she was desperate for the loo and couldn't chat. Maybe the hob was boiling over or she had superglue on her hands or was in the middle of a phone call or her boss was ringing or she couldn't find her shoes.

Just ask! You have nothing to lose.

@bernfinn89 no you cannot assume that! That’s completely made up in your head ffs. Stop doing her thinking for her, be an adult and just ask! What have you got to lose you are already clearly pissed off, you may be pleasantly surprised or you will be justified in your feelings, either way it’s not about you it’s about your DS.

i text and got no reply ..the party is in half an hour.. she had said originally only 4 out of the class were invited as with sibling etc thats all she cud invite number wise..my son has told me 4 other names that are going so id imagine he has been replaced by another kid..

Well, I suppose her mum is going to have to get wet then! Cfs.