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VBAC or ELCS?

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Rachell1 · 30/09/2022 13:26

Hi all,

I am expecting baby number 2, my son will be 2 years 2 months when baby arrives and midwives are quite keen for me to try for a vaginal birth.

The reason why I had an emergency c section last time was because I was dilating slowly and the midwife decided to start the drip which intensifies the contractions, but shortly after she started this (which was done way too soon imo any way), baby’s heart rate dropped rapidly and on multiple occasions, leading to a chaotic c section.

I don’t have any particular preference, I suppose the recovery may be easier from a vaginal birth (seeing as I have a toddler to run around after). However, I am worried that I will have a repeat from last time and it may end in an emergency c section any way… and if I’m going to have a c section i’d rather it be planned rather than emergency. Although I completely appreciate nobody can know this until the time comes and its the risk I would have to take and remain hopeful and positive!

Has anybody reading this had a successful VBAC?

Thanks

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Mamabear04 · 30/09/2022 14:20

Hello! I had a successful VBAC 11 weeks ago and so glad I did! DC1 was breech so a little bit of different circumstances. I would say that just because you have a VBAC doesn't mean that it will be the perfect birth and you'll still have to have time to recover. I had a bad 3rd degree tear but after a couple of weeks I was up and about so much more quickly and it was so nice to be able to get out of bed without the agony of post c-section. It's been much easier to look after a toddler as well but ive still not felt confident to take her out to the park alone yet as I'm not able to run yet but I am able to lift her/bend to help etc which I am so happy about. Although the VBAC was painful I would say the recovery is much less painful than the c-section and I feel better mentally for it. I also am so proud of my body and am so glad I did it! It was amazing to give birth vaginally! Like you I was really nervous going into it as to if I could do it but I think 2nd time around your body just knows what to do and you know what's basically going to happen so you are more aware of what's going on if that makes sense? I was in established labour after 2 hours of contractions coming on and was only pushing for like 20 mins (7 hours in total). I was also only in hospital one night and it was so nice to get home earlier. Feel free to ask any other questions you like. Hope everything goes well!

Rachell1 · 30/09/2022 18:01

Thank you for sharing your story! It’s really encouraging to hear it was so positive for you and you are absolutely right this labour could be so different from the first and if I don’t try I will never know! Found your reply very helpful, thank you! X

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Blessedbethefruitz · 30/09/2022 18:08

Another vbac after cesarean for breech for ds1. I think I'm pain sensitive and the cesarean recovery for me (no complications, healed beautifully) was torture. I had a deep 2nd degree tear for my vbac this year, precipitous labour and shoulder dystocia (gas and air and worn off morphine for pain). I would do this 1000x before having another cesarean. I had a little soreness from the stitches after, and felt a bit bruised, but I was up and about with my v active 3 year old again immediately. It was an entirely different experience from ds! I felt I could be properly present for my v needy 3 year old even while learning to breastfeed :)

Everyone and every birth is different though. Good luck!

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YouPrettyThings · 30/09/2022 18:16

My first labour sounds exactly like yours - awful EMC and baby in neo-natal for 4 weeks. I had a plain sailing VBAC 2 years later - was booked in for a cesarean but went into labour naturally the day before.

Good luck with whatever you choose!

StandUpForYourRights · 30/09/2022 18:20

I'll give you the opposite pov. I had emergency section 1st time, almost exactly as you describe yours. Went elective 2nd time and so glad I did. Everything was so easy, planned and calm. Recovery was quick and no problem, even with a 20 month old running about. I have never regretted my decision.

Babyboomtastic · 01/10/2022 15:20

Both of my sections were planned, but I know that that have had both often find a planned one better.

I recovered really easily after both - I was going round the supermarket pain free on day 3, was chasing my toddler round the garden in day 5 (I remember as I couldnt do it i pregnancy due to spd). I was going down slides in soft play with my toddler in under 2 weeks.

I loved my planned sections and wouldn't want to give birth in any other way

winterbabyrose · 09/08/2023 13:42

@Rachell1 Just wondering how your birth went in the end? I am in the same situation as you - EMCS with first due to heart rate dropping and slow progress. Really want to go for VBAC second time round but utterly terrified of rupture.

Rachell1 · 31/08/2023 20:53

@winterbabyrose hello! Sorry for the late reply and hope everything is going well for you and your pregnancy! So I ended up going with the planned section (I say planned, it was literally planned 2 hours beforehand!). I semi wanted the vbac but the option was kind of taken from me in the end. My waters broke at home but labour never started (no pains or contractions even after 24 hours). Due to risk of infection, they then gave me 2 options; 1. Start induction process with hormonal drip and try for the vbac or 2. Plan a c section for later that day.

Labour ward was absolutely manic that day and there were no beds so I just thought to myself… i’d never forgive myself if baby got an infection (due to waters not being present for 24+ hours by that point) so I opted for the c section and was in theatre a couple of hours later.

I have to say, I am so pleased with my decision. I didn’t go through the agony of labour, I didn’t face waiting around in pain for hours and hours. I went into theatre, relatively relaxed and rested and it was absolutely magical. It was so exciting and completely different from the emcs first time round. Baby was passed to me straight away (as per my request, although I understand some hospitals do not do this during c sections). Honestly, it was so quick and I loved every second. Recovery was very speedy too.

I think it’s good to voice your plans and feelings with the midwives, equally though, be fully prepared to just go with the flow because you just never know what is going to happen! Not only could your body have other ideas but of course the hospital could be so so busy and you could be faced with the situation that I (and many others that day) were in, in that there were no beds available on labour ward to start any sort of induction.

All the best for whatever you chose :) xx

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