Overprotective

[Shazzy11]

Hi,

My name is Shazzy, I have a three year old called Layla. Before Layla I had a little boy who passed away when he was seven months old.

Since then I am aware that I can be over protective so have tried very hard, with help, to make sure I don't pass on my fears to her. I think I've failed

She is in nursery at the moment and talks a lot about her day. Recently I have noticed she tells of events where she asks people to play with her and they say no. She seems undeterred and ends the stories with then I went and played with Megan (as an example) and she said yes. She doesn't seem phased but I feel really sad and worried. Is this normal? How do I know if she's ok and whether I need to do anything. Her teacher has said she is sensitive and that has me worried. I feel like I did that to her and now she's suffering because of me..

Any help would really be appreciated.

Shazzy

hi and welcome

I think its perfectly understandable, considering your loss that you would be protective of your little one. Ive never had a loss like that and i was/am still protective over all three of mine.

The fact that she moved on from other children who didn't want to play to children that did shows a very level headed and confident child in my opinion (afterall, she could have not moved on and cried instead)

I think she sounds lovely and so what if she is sensitive sometimes - its a good quality to have. Try not to worry -I think your doing a great job.

Thank you. That's made me cry.. ( so silly)

I just have really bad days and this week just hearing her sounding so sad about what happened has made me feel so awful..

I think the teacher labeling her has just made me feel like I've failed her.

Thank you again for your words, they've helped me through today.

DS is a sensitive child. He seems to play along side the kids on the playground most of the time (he is in Reception class) and plays with one or two kids at most.

For your DD to move on to Megan after being told no is very good - confident and undeterred.

You have no failed her - you are a brilliant mum and so what if she is a bit sensitive? You want a well balanced child - not a bulldozer!

Hi, my 3 year old DS is a sensitive old soul too! I know it can be worrying but it quite endearing too.
I worry about him too at playschool etc but the teacher is aware and keeps an eye on him...they are used to dealing with the different personalities and I would say they prefer a sensitve child anyday to a bully!!
Sounds like you are doing a great job, keep up the great work.
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Thank you both.

That has helped. Some days for me are bad, today was a bad day. The thought of her being hurt is heart breaking and just reminds me of what I've lost already and how much he suffered.

The kind words have helped. I just need to remember she is who she is.. and to just love and support her along her way..

xxx