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Unwell partner

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chickpea95 · 28/09/2022 21:42

I am pregnant and been really unwell suffering with hyperemisis. My partner has now said he is feeling unwell and put himself to bed saying he cannot take my eldest to school etc however he knows I am too unwell. I feel annoyed over the situation can anybody else understand or offer advice?

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cestlavielife · 28/09/2022 21:43

Is he the father of your eldest?

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chickpea95 · 28/09/2022 21:45

Yes

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TheRookie · 28/09/2022 21:50

How does he know how he'll feel in 10 hours time?? Let him have his rest and then see how it goes in the morning.

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Isaidnoalready · 28/09/2022 22:00

Point out to him how bad it will look on him if you have to do the school run

MolliciousIntent · 28/09/2022 22:34

The default on here is to assume that your DH is a dick, but is there anything to suggest that he isn't actually unwell?

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chickpea95 · 29/09/2022 08:35

So this morning he has took him to school with plenty if slamming sound huffing and puffing and making sure I sorted the breakfast and got him ready. I was upset and been vomiting so I told him not to bother coming back. He replied with "your not well so let the whole world stand still shall we".
My sickness is already having a physical and mental impact on me and hes looked after me and the kids the past week however he seems to of had enough.

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PurpleWisteria · 29/09/2022 09:12

If you are both ill you have to work together for the sake of the DCs. He's allowed to be ill. It isn't a competition.

PinkButtercups · 29/09/2022 09:16

PurpleWisteria · 29/09/2022 09:12

If you are both ill you have to work together for the sake of the DCs. He's allowed to be ill. It isn't a competition.

This.

Adultchildofelderlyparents · 29/09/2022 09:18

Hyperemisis is awful, I don't think a lot of people understand just how awful! But other people can be sick too. You are both feeling unwell and both lashing out at each other. Be annoyed at the situation, not the person. Is there anyone who can help? So you have parents who can stay/help at least for a couple of days to give both of you a rest?

ocadodeliveroo · 29/09/2022 09:25

How is is your eldest?

ocadodeliveroo · 29/09/2022 09:25

How is is your eldest?

I meant how old is your eldest?

ChocChipOwl · 29/09/2022 09:30

I think it's clear that your husband is a dick no matter how many other posters try and excuse his behaviour

Is he normally like this or is you being pregnant exacerbating it? Is he feeling 'put upon?' (Poor thing) is he happy about the pregnancy?

The truth of the matter probably lies in there somewhere

Peridot1 · 29/09/2022 09:32

Well it is what it is really. You have hyperemisis and he is unwell with something else. (I assume he is really unwell.). Neither trumps the other. You are both parents. You both need to be a team. He can’t opt out of taking dc to school if he can physically manage it. But I’m sorry neither can you. You need to work out what you can do between you. You are in it together. And presumably once dc is at school you can both rest. And work out between you who does pick up and how to divide what needs to be done later.

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