How can I get Ds1 to respect the fact that I am a human being, and not a vending machine?

[colditz]

he will be 5 in April, and it doesn't matter what I am doing, or how many times I ask him to wait while I finish my breakfast/wipe my bottom/fry an egg, he will make a request and repeat it ad infinitum, seemingly without hearing my answer until he gets what he wants.

It's disrespectful and self centred, and I know he's only 4 but it really annoys me, especially when I'm eating. I hate being nagged!

have we got the same kids?!

Yes, you've stolen my 7 yr old and 5 yr old haven't you?

I wish I knew. VERY annoying.

I'm sure lots of people will come along and tell me that this is a very bad suggestion, but I'd handle it like this.

Tell him once that he must wait until you have finished X. Ignore all further requests/demands - act like he hasn't spoken. don't get into the whole

I want a biscuit
Sure love, in a minute, I'm just cleaning the loo
i want a biscuit
I said in a second
i want a biscuit
I have my hands down the loo..WAIT
i want a biscuit NOW NOW NOW
I said WAAAAAAAIT

Instead, make sure it's

i want a biscuit
sure love, in a minute, I'm just cleaning the loo
i want a biscuit

iwant a biscuit

LISTEN TO MEEEEEEEEEEE BISCUIT NOW

Biscuit biscuit biscuit mum i HATE you

Thanks for waiting sweetheart, let's go get that biscuit shall we?

Hmmmm, that looks like it should work ... I will give it a go.

Humph - that method of yours deosn't work with my 2 Hecate - and they are older so should know better

Oooh hecate, did that with dd1 at that age - she got the message very quickly!! (excellent explanation btw!) hope it works for you colditz!

I find a 'You have told me twice and I heard and answered you the FIRST time. If you ask me again you will NOT get xxxxxxx and if you continue to whinge after that y will happen'.
y generally is Mammy will not play Polly Pocket. God I hate Polly Pocket. Its an irrational thing I know.
I did try Hecate's method but discovered I havent got the patience for it .

I think you have to be a really really good ignorer!

I can be in the same room as a child having a meltdown and screaming so loud you would swear they are about to take out the windows and look for all the world like I'm reading a book in the library!

Hecate, thanks for reminding me how to do it. In the midst of my shouting and general frustration I'd lost sight of the plot. Appreciate that.

I just tell DS (5 last October) that it is rude to keep going on. Something along the lines of:

"don't ask me again - it is rude. If you do, you won't get it" whatever "it" is and I stick to it.

If he throws a tantrum, he gets put in another room and told that until he can behave and apologise when he's calmed down, he can stay out there; this isn't timed, he just comes back when he feels he can apologise.

Does anyone else's DC keep asking for the item even while you are in the process of getting it?

DS is capable of keeping up a monologue for the time it takes to prepare said item:

Eg
Can I have a piece of cheese please
Yes
Can I have a piece of cheese please
I want some cheese
A really big piece of cheese
Please can I have some cheese

Soooooo irritating!

omg does my head in too

why is our dinner not hereeeeeeeee

GGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRR

im STANDING in the Fing kitchen lifting the Fing dinner....would you like me to magicly zap it through to the dining room for you???????

OBVIOUSLY if i have them sitting in thier places with thier bibs on its only going to be a couple of minutes anyway GGRRRR (and only reason i dont let them play right up to the second dinners on the table is cos they are narky by that time of day and so fight and then i have to come away from getting DINNER ready to sort it out

sorry lol rant over

the ultimate punishment for 4yr old is losing her bedtime stories (she has 2) so she gets a warning, then if she carrys on being cheeky or whatever then she only gets one story.

or as it was 2 night ago none ;) worked like a treat cos shes been an angel since :P

I use a combination of Hecate and tarantula/lewisfans methods personally.

Sometimes they are told, 'just one minute' and ignored until I do it, but they still go on and on and on, then it gets to the stage where DS grabs my face to his incase I cant hear him and shouts 'Muuuuuuuuuuuuuuuum I said can I have a biscuit' which is when I say 'I told you once, yes, in a minute, now let me do ** and then I will get you it or you're not having it'.