I’ll keep this short and sweet. My husband and I have a 5 month old, I lost my dad 2 weeks before she was born, suffered with PPD and just feeling connected to her now. My husband and I have drifted apart quite a lot. We were supposed to have a lovely Saturday morning planned at the weekend just gone and he went out with his workmates (just the blokes) on Friday night and rolled in at 4am. He woke me up and snored so I had to go to the sofa (couldn’t wake him to up to get him to move). He just wouldn’t get up the next day and finally did at 1pm. I was so angry and saw a message from a colleague pop up on his phone saying “it’s okay, I think we cleared the air last night”. I know I shouldn’t have but I quickly checked the message and it turns out my husband had initiated a conversation about rating the girls in their team and a few of the other guys had been uncomfortable about the conversation. FFS! At what age do men get past this?! He had said to them how sorry he was and that he never thinks about stuff like that, it was just banter after having too many shots which he really regrets. I’m pissed at him. I’m just having a hard time gauging how pissed I should be at the moment given I’m angry at him most of the time as he’s not been the most supportive. Would you be angry? I know I chat to other women about good looking guys etc. but this felt a bit degrading and I just feel like he’s rating other women and at the same time completely neglecting me?! He was supportive when my dad died, but since our daughter was born we have just drifted. She rejected the bottle at 2 months old and stopped settling with him and I know he feels upset by that. But to be honest, whilst I understand that’s not easy for him, I can’t be worrying about him and how he’s feeling when I’m just trying to cope with being a new mum with a baby that wakes up 6 times a night (and bloody hell would I like to be able to go out until 4am!). It feels like his reaction to all of this has been just to back away from both of us and I don’t know if things are going to change. This recent 4am shenanigans has just felt like it’s just tipped me over the edge…