Has anyone ever had an abortion whilst already a parent

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I’ve already done a thread. Recently found out I’m pregnant and I’m gutted. Not ready for another baby and I go into depth about it on that thread

I have a 9mo little boy and he’s my world I adore being his mummy. I don’t know what it was tonight I have sobbed looking at him thinking I’ll either give him a brother or sister or terminate this pregnancy and I’ve been leaning towards the latter but I don’t know what it is thinking about it and looking at my son tonight as he lay sleeping in my arms it just hit me </3

Is it normal to feel like this? Also are they horrible I’m really scared overall but the process sounds not so nice

This is really common OP. Many many women who are already mothers choose to terminate a later pregnancy.

@TwoWeeksislong Yeah I know it must happen for so so many I just wondered are my feelings normal?

I feel I want to terminate for certain reasons but tonigjt I just thought about how it could be my child’s sibling and when I thought like that I suddenly got really upset ? Even though I know my gut feeling is right

I terminated a pregnancy when my child was 6 months old.

I'd had serious complications after he was born, multiple surgeries and another birth would have been dangerous.

He's now 11 and an only child. I have moments of guilt but overall it was the right decision. I would have loved more children but there's a chance I could have left him without a mother.

I had an abortion when my eldest was 3. I don’t even think about it to be honest.

I terminated a 3rd pregnancy because I could not financially or emotionally afford to raise another child. I don't think about it much - it was right for me at the time.

Okay thank you All. To summarise I don’t want another child yet as I’m just not ready That’s the short story

My boyfriend (current DS’ dad and the baby I am pregnant withs father) doesn’t want an abortion and also stated he feels it’d haunt him forever. Which started to make me worry that it’d also haunt me?

I had an abortion when my dd was 5 months old. Emotionally it is definitely difficult but I have no regrets at all. I later went on to have ds.

The procedure itself is easier the earlier you have it. I was 6 weeks.

You take a tablet orally and then insert a 2nd one into your vagina. They give you painkillers. I didn't find the physical side too bad. Certainly easier than the alternative.

Good luck x

Yes, I did and so did the lovely lady I made friends with in the clinic waiting room. I had 3 DCs already, I'd lost the 4th pregnancy at 23 weeks (traumatic but also rather a relief, not sure why I didn't feel I could have a termination then...).
I was going to uni 6 months after and I really didn't want to ruin that (plus 3 is plenty!). It was an easy decision and I've not really given it much thought since.

Think of the opportunity and money you will have for child.

My dd suffered severe mental health issues. I wouldn't have been abke to be with her there as much with another child.

Able

I had on the phone counselling from Marie Stopes which helped.

Yes I had an abortion when my DC was about 5. Never regretted it. I was already a lone parent and my newer relationship was up and down and I just didn't want another child born from a place of emotional and financial instability. Still with the same partner 10 years later and still don't regret it. I also think I have the gift of not beating myself up over the past.

Re: your partner... so many men pressure their GF to keep a baby, then fuck off and refuse to pay CMS or take an active part in their upbringing.

Did you and your partner have more children together?