Stuck in a loop, advice?

[mummyandbab]

I have a 6 year old child who is going through the process of being diagnosed with adhd. This is exhausting enough for both of us.

This post is more about me though. I didn't know where to post this. I have never been around healthy relationships and my choice in men reflects this. My choices in general reflect the negativity.

First of I do everything I can to make sure my baby is happy and healthy, however I have been stuck in this loop and been trying to get my sh*t together for a long time now. I keep my daughter out of my relationships with the exception of her dad and my previous as we were together 2 years. But I feel I use these as excuses and make excuses in general for changing my diet, changing my mindset. But it's always easier said than done.

I'll go a good amount of time doing amazing and I'll be thriving but I'll get lazy, or let things get on top of me and I'll take days off work to get on top of things and then leave that job for another and then everything will be ok. I do notice when I let the routine slip slightly my daughters behaviour will slip and she'll become agitated and deliberately disobedient.

Has anyone ever been stuck in a rut like this before if so any advice? I know it is just consistency needed aswell.

Also please no snarky comments, even through, I never slack with my daughter I do everything for her and keep her happy and healthy.

But doing better for me will do better for her. I know a lot of mums going through it but I'm done with it.

Have you ever considered that you might also have ADHD? The regularly quitting jobs and then everything is ok with a new job stands out to me -- part of ADHD is having less dopamine, so you seek out new challenges/excitement to create dopamine, and when something gets too routine, it becomes boring, thus no dopamine, thus you don't do it anymore.

Even if you don't go for a diagnosis, it may be worth looking at some videos and reading some resources about managing your own motivation as someone with (possible) ADHD and recognising that for you, it may always take that extra effort to maintain long-term positive changes in your life (part of Tue ADHD tax, sadly).

Be kind to yourself, it's not your fault but there are things you can do to help yourself.

Part of the* ADHD tax, that should have said.

Thank you. Adhd does run strongly in my family so I've always thought of the possibility.