Please help, desperate for advice

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My 11 month old sleeps around 8 or 9 hrs a night and 2 hrs a day over 2 naps if I'm lucky. Her wake windows are minimum 4 hrs and sometimes as long as 7. She settles fine at night but in the day will only nap on me and my boob, or on DH after a long dance session. We are both exhausted and I don't understand where she gets her energy from.
I've tried sleep training methods but she just screams and screams.
I dont know what to do. Please help

She doesn't need to do that at all. Breastmilk is the recommended nutrition for babies until 2 and nothing wrong with a baby needing comfort to sleep either.

Stopping might well mean less sleep and distress for everyone.

I wouldnt dream of it. Mainly because the sleepless do not dream 🙃 but also because this short time in my life is not about me, its about DD and if that's what she needs then that's what she needs

Ah I get it now! It's so tough. Good few years back for me but remember the feeling of exhaustion & hopelessness. I have no practical advice not least because what works for one won't work for all.. only you will eventually fathom how to help your own child to sleep and would add trying a million different techniques people suggest can get exhausting in itself. I know right know saying it won't be like this forever will not land with you but it really is true. You just gotta dig in and do whatever you need to get through til then. Sending all the support & understanding to you though xx

I have no advice but my DS was the same, we would have to contact nap and we coslept, he was constantly on the boob throughout the night then miraculously at 13 months he just started sttn. For naps as he got mobile we would lie next to each other and he would roll away from me. I didn't actively do anything to get him to that point he just did it on his own!

I bought dummies for mine after the first ten days! Wonderful things. My DDs rapidly learned to self soothe to sleep by sucking on them.