Baby 20 days old

[darldream]

Hey everyone,

My daughter is 20 days old and I am breastfeeding. The problem is she sticks to me and wants to be on my breast the whole day and even during the night. As soon as I put her down, she starts a drama and keeps shooting. 🥲

Is this normal?

Hi, congratulations on your new baby girl 💖

I’m no expert as my DD is only 4 months but I’m breastfeeding her, this sounds like cluster feeding which is normal for newborns. DD used to cluster feed for up to 6 hours at a time, literally on me all that time & having short cat naps then feeding again until she was exhausted. It’s their way of increasing your supply to meet their growing & changing requirements, and they can look quite cross too. Usually it lasts a few days then calms down, before the next growth spurt!

It will calm down though as your supply becomes established, usually around 6-7 weeks I think?

So it is normal but will be the same for some time. 🥲thank you.

Yeah sounds about right to me it will settle down. Just try to lower expectations of doing much and enjoy time with the baby! X

This website is great for all things feeding, it is normal and will calm down, but will still happen on and off, my DD is 25 days and does this, particularly in the evenings, was the same with DD1

kellymom.com/parenting/parenting-faq/fussy-evening/

“Starts a drama”? She’s a newborn baby ffs.

You need to read up on the 4th trimester as well as doing some research on breastfeeding behaviour.

You can’t seriously have expected to have a baby and then just be able to put them down whenever you want. That’s not natural nor biologically normal for them - you’re all they’ve ever known.

Of course they just want to be close to you, they’re absolutely terrified in a strange new place.

Congratulations and welcome to the newborn stage! Please take a seat, the rollercoaster will begin shortly.

Totally normal I’m afraid. My daughter didn’t let me put her down AT ALL until she was 9 weeks old.

I always found 9 weeks was the magic number for them to settle down a bit

Mine is 14 months and still doesn't let me put her down. And I didn't even breastfeed

Yes that's entirely normal! Absolutely second looking at the kellymom website - lots of sensible help there! Congrats with you baby x

It's evolution in action.... the babies that stuck to their mums survived, the ones that got put down got eaten by sabre toothed tigers........

Seriously though, it's normal for a newborn to want to be with you, it's where they've been for the past 9 months. Do you have a sling or carrier of some kind? That may help as you can pop the baby in there and they are next to your heartbeat and feel all warm and cosy and often go to sleep, leaving you free to walk around, have a wee etc 😂

A bit of preparation helps too. Get your cup of tea, snacks, phone, remote, feeding pillow and so on all within reach. Whack on a good box set and feed for hours! Weirdly you will look back on it with nostalgia when they get all wriggly and mobile and spend all day trashing your house. Good luck xxx