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Help me navigate this weird situation re kids on our estate

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Greenginghamdress · 19/09/2022 19:40

There are a lot of children on the estate where we live. It's a quiet rural place with a play area and not much traffic.
DD has started to have friends knock round, sometimes on their own! She's 4 (,5 in December) and the children walking around knocking are 4-7.
One little girl has knocked for DD almost every night this week around 4 or 5pm to play on the park, but DD goes to holiday club after school so we weren't home. I got a text on Friday saying could DD play , this was from the little girls mum. It was almost 6:30pm and I said she was about to have a bath and we may see them over the weekend.
I was out Saturday but DD had her cousin (2.5) round to play and the little girl and her mum called round again. My partner answered the door and said DDs cousin was here having tea and unfortunately DD couldn't play today. Little girl asked to come in and partner said no, maybe another time.
When he told me this, I felt sorry we had missed them so many times. I have little girls mums number and text her saying her girl was welcome to come round to play and for tea , today. This was 10am yesterday morning. I got no reply.
DD wanted to go out on her bike after tea so we went round the estate and saw lots of kids including little girl. My DD tried to say hello, but girl ran off saying 'I hate you today' and 'goodbye poo head' . Her mum was there, avoided looking me in the eye and kept her head bowed. The other kids said 'Go away ...her name' and ran away from her.
DD was upset. I'm left wondering what I did wrong?! I didn't sign up for this much when she was so young! What do I do? 😬

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Winceybincey · 19/09/2022 19:43

Speak to the girls mum face to face. It isn’t fair on your DD for this to happen and you have to live amongst these people. I would have asked the girls mum there and then what the issue is and why she’s allowing her DD to call another child horrible names.

lailamaria · 19/09/2022 20:19

well i agree the mum shouldn't be allowing her dd to say things like that to your dd however the other kid probably feels very i don't know lonely why did your partner say no to her joining may i ask

Greenginghamdress · 19/09/2022 20:22

Thanks both.

@lailamaria My partner is quite an introvert and doesn't feel like he knows the girls mum at all.
Also I don't think DDs cousin has ever been to our house (she was a lockdown baby, and her mum didn't go out for a long time) so it felt like a special occasion and probably a case of bad timing.

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