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Any How To Talkers around? Fancy giving me a hand for a week?

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Cappuccino · 24/01/2008 09:31

dd is starting to play up this week for several reasons - dh is away for a fortnight, my mum is here practically all the time (I am recovering from ME so she is giving me a hand), and she is a frustrated 7 year old who does not get her way all the time

This morning she was not drinking her orange juice and after being asked to drink it several times she picked it up and spilled it over the table; this is teh second time she has done this.

I could see by my mother's face that she was sitting on her hands trying not to wallop her (that's what she would have done with me when I was a kid!). I told dd she could not have her computer on today and I switched it off at the wall; when she had calmed down I told her that her behaviour wasn't acceptable and then left it

I'm just finding it so hard this week because dh is away, my mother is here half of the time desperately trying to take my lead but at the same time using some of her own parenting techniques (this morning I don't think things would have come to a head so fast if my mum hadn't been wheedling dd to drink her juice). I really want to be completely on the ball with my parenting skills and I am not; I ought to read the book again but by the time I have fought them into bed I am just ready to drop

and dh is away and I am so tired and I am emotionally raw this week [drama queen emoticon] because of some news I got which really upset me

so I wondered if you would hang around and give me hearty slaps on the back or advice or nice cups of hot chocolate every so long to get me the next week or so

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Cappuccino · 24/01/2008 10:44

have you all retired?

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Cappuccino · 24/01/2008 13:38
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hertsnessex · 24/01/2008 13:42

oh cappuccino,

i suffer with ME. im here for you.

how are things today?

cx

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AngharadGoldenhand · 24/01/2008 13:56

Do you want suggestions from other people or just How to-ers?

Talk2Me · 24/01/2008 14:08

Big hug. It's so hard sometimes ... !
We're having mega dinner time stress at present. DS1 is 6 and constantly winds up DS2 who then refuses to eat his dinner. He doesn't eat much at the best of times and desperately needs to get it down him. We all eat together but dinner times now go on for ever ... and ever ... I reckon it's another 'phase' - there seem to be so many of them, don't there?

Please don't shoot yourself - it would make a terrible mess of the carpet. Not every battle is important - choose the really important ones to fight and forget the rest. Just keep everybody fed, watered and safe and let that be enough for now.

Cappuccino · 24/01/2008 14:14

herts I'm sorry to hear that

I do - cross fingers - think I am being very lucky. I only started with post-viral fatigue in September, and I already feel loads better

I've been very lucky in that my mum has been around constantly to help me get the rest I needed to recover

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hertsnessex · 24/01/2008 19:07

you are lucky - i get 0 help!

but it could be alot worse, so what i always think.

i hope your dh comes home soon - or at least it seems soon!!!!

keep smiling, tomorrow is another day.

Scootergrrrl · 24/01/2008 19:13

I hope you're feeling better today. We always have a similar situation with my MIL who spoon-feeds DD when she refuses to eat her dinner - she's four! - and sneaks her biscuits if she doesn't eat at mealtimes.
We had to ask her very nicely to simply leave us to get on with it at mealtimes and say that if she didn't think she could, then we would have to eat with DD in another room because it was getting ridiculous.
At the end of the day, the not eating and misbehaving gets them the attention they want and I hope you can get your mum to understand that.

Scootergrrrl · 24/01/2008 19:14

Even if it's negatitive attention, I should have said. Good luck!

juuule · 24/01/2008 19:15

Why did she have to drink her orange?

Cappuccino · 24/01/2008 20:56

oh cos she eats and drinks sod all

she sees a dietician because she is too small cos she eats and drinks sod all

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juuule · 24/01/2008 21:12

Presumably the dietician has had a word with her in the past about what she should eat.
My child has encopresis and has to take Movicol. She hates it. The community nurse spoke to her and explained that it was to make her toilet trouble get better. She also explained that if my dd didn't take it she may have to go to hospital where they could watch her take it. Whenever she is having a fit about taking it, we remind her why she needs it and then leave it to her whether to drink it or not. She drinks it but in her own time.
Do you think anything like that might work for getting your dd to eat/drink?
Sorry if this is all old ground to you. Which I suspect it probably is.

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