Anyone have an advice on having a phobia of vomit when you have children?

[Foreveranxious22]

Hi, I have always hated sick, whether it’s me actually being sick or watching someone else be sick it’s just always been something that sets me off in panic. I hardly every get drunk in case I drink to much and vomit.
Now I have 2 children. When my DD1 was younger and she was sick I coped pretty well, hardly phased me. But then when she turned 4 and went back into school full time after covid she got the worst sickness bug I’ve ever seen in any one, must of vomited 15+ times in 24 hours. I was heavily pregnant with DD2.
This was back in feb and now I feel like my phobia is back worse than ever. I panic if she says someone has been off school and I picture them having something they will make her vomit, I panic about public restrooms and have even stopped taking my daughter to soft plays in fear she’ll pick something up. She’s gone to bed tonight saying she’s got a tummy ache and my DP is out watching the footy and I’m just sat petrified she’s going to be sick. I’ve had enough of it. Has anyone been like me and over come it? Or have any advice that they could give me? I feel like im a bad mum who’s currently scared of her own child just because there’s a chance she might be sick.
Any advice would be more than welcome.
thank you x

I have called GORD that causes emetophobia but not to this extent. Could you try CBT? It sounds a bit crazy but my stepmum also had a serious spider phobia and she had great results with hypnosis.

I mainly coach myself that it’s just anxiety and that thinking about it is worse than dealing with it, and it’s really fine.

Hope you can find something that works so you and DD don’t miss out on things x

If you think about it it's the anxiety not the vomiting as that will not hurt you. When you have the thoughts breathe deeply and distract yourself with something else. Truth is your daughter may be ill but may not and you're wasting your life worrying about a maybe. Remember, you and your children have been sick but no-one came to any harm and you survived it.

Hey,
I've had a bad phobia of vomiting, being round people who even feel sick sends me into a panic attack. When family have been ill I've had to book into a hotel as bad as that sounds because I can't deal with it. I feel bad that it's taken over my life like it has and it's debilitating. Those who understand it get it completely, those who don't I feel selfish but when you've got a phobia it's the hardest thing.

@MapleAcer I’m doing a bit better tbh! My DD had a dodgy tummy 2 weeks ago and was sick and I didn’t get overly stressed about it. I felt so happy that I was able to concentrate on her and getting her feeling better rather than my own fixation on the vomiting incident itself.
I remember a time where a family member I lived with had been sick and I packed my bag and went to stay with other family for the night. Feel terrible about it now and how it must of made them feel.
It is so difficult when you have a phobia of sick. Most people when I speak about it look at me like I’m crazy. It’s a part of life, especially when you have children I’d been told by someone! I just say well yes exactly how do you think I feel all the time! which is why even at the mention of a stomach ache by someone can set my anxiety off about it!
Thank you for your reply, hopefully we’ll find a way to overcome our phobia x