Struggling with baby

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Hi
i was just wondering if anyone had any experience of this / or any recommendations.
I have a nearly 10 month old breastfed baby. I introduced a bottle early on to ensure she would take both for when I went back to work (I’ve had bottle refusers in the past). All was fine she was taking one bottle a day/ every other day no problem. And now she instantly refuses even the sight of it has her in blind rage- crying / kicking / screaming.
ive tried different bottles and different drink cups. She refuses both. She won’t drink water or formula or breast milk. She refuses everything.
she also doesn’t sleep wanting to feed through the night constantly (she’s always been a bad sleeper but it’s getting worse I’m talking in excess of 12 x a night!) I’m not sure if it’s separation anxiety or just a habit at this point. She goes down at night fine and then wakes up constantly.
my main problem is I work long shifts 12-13 hours days and nights. She goes this long without drinking anything (we try and give her food that contains a lot of fluid in it like fruit/ yoghurt etc to ensure she doesn’t get dehydrated). When I’m on a night shift she will scream and scream. The last night I was in she cried for her dad for 7 hours straight.

I am completely stuck. She sleeps awful when I’m there but worse when I’m not.
I don’t know how to get her to drink!

I ideally would like to stop breastfeeding at this point as I think it’s making her sleep worse and the separation anxiety worse. I feel awful leaving her knowing she won’t drink. I feel guilty knowing she is just going to scream all night long but I have to work!

im actually at breaking point if anyone can offer any words of advice. Thank you

Can you use a syringe? You're right, she needs sustenance.

Re: sleep, you need to really follow a method for teaching her to sleep -- consistency is key. I liked the book Precious Little Sleep personally but there are plenty of other good ones.

Yes my partner has been syringing water in to her mouth also but it’s not really sustainable long term to keep doing this.
i am really trying to be consistent at night but it is just so hard when I am so exhausted but I will continue to be consistent at night and keep settling her back in her cot. I feel like as she’s getting older it’s only getting more difficult to get her to sleep and stay asleep I wish I tried harder when she was younger

This is about the age I cracked and did some sleep training with mine. I agree with the consistency, I'd recommend just stopping feeding her at night so it's consistent when you're working. She'll hate it at first and will take a few nights but is probably the only way you could do it (stay strong - she WILL sleep eventually). She does need liquids and milk in the day though, what cups have you tried? My boys never took to a bottle but would drink from a weighted straw cup - just a little at first but they soon drank loads. Good luck, I feel for you x