how to deal with bullying at nursery

[lockdownmummax]

my daughter is 2 and a half and at nursery
Her nursery is great and she really enjoys it

She got bitten a couple months ago from a little boy, on the incident report it says my little girl was sitting in the story corner reading and the boy just ran over and bit her?

Today I was dropping her at nursery, I was talking to the nursery teacher and my little girl sat on the floor and was playing with a toy, the same boy that bit her ran over to her from the other side of the room and started hitting her on the head with a wooden spoon?? My we girl curled her head in and she looked really scared , I was quite taken a back and I left feeling unsettled
I'm worried this little boy is bullying my daughter and I'm not being informed? I know they are toddlers but I'm not happy with her being treated like that I hate the thought of someone mistreating her or her being scared

There is definitely an illogical twist in this post. We're accepting that the parent couldn't protect the little girl from a boy with behavioural issues who ran over and hit her, but believe that the nursery staff could. How? How does the adult know whether he's about to hit her with the spoon rather than make a mud pie with it? Or bite her rather than hug her? Even if they deploy an adult to follow him around (impossible), it's done before they can stop it happening.

Given that this has happened twice in two months, it is perfectly possible he's like this every day and that the nursery are doing an amazing job of protecting her. Just saying.

Sorry - meant to write illogical twist in the thread, not in the OP's post.

The parent was outside the room. The staff were not. The girl was cowering. The staff aren't doing a wonderful job.

Poor girl. I just can’t get with this idea that he doesn’t know what he’s doing and can’t help it. He’s 2, not 2 months. His actions are deliberate not incidental. Now this has happened twice, he needs supervising to prevent him hurting other children but she also needs boosting to ensure she knows she is completely blameless and given verbal tools to ensure she knows how to protect herself and ask for protection from the staff. Girls safety should be prioritised from the disproportionate physical threat from boys of the same age.

@UWhatNow I am going to hit one of the mumsnets bingo points now but I was the mum of the bitey child and I would like people to have better understanding of disabilities so... The child may, or may not, have a disability which means they are struggling in the nursery environment or are a behind in their development. This is why this biting child should be being supported and helped rather than disciplined for biting. This incident may even mean that the nursery are able to ask for extra funding/ support for the child. They are clearly not managing the situation safely for any of the kids with the current set up.

I totally agree with boosting the confidence of your daughter op. Give her some tools, saying no loudly and always telling the nursery staff.