Hi everyone, I'm new here so hope this is alright to post. I had been with my ex for 4 ½ years on and off, every 3 months basically he left and then after 3 months I contacted him we got back together and so on, until I looked back I didn't realise that that was what was happening. We got along so well, at the start it was great we were so close, he moved in with me, we would both go to work do our own thing then come to spend the afternoon and night together and repeat the next day.
After 2 years he had left and during this time he got attacked and was left brain damaged, he had a struggle to get back to himself, I was there to support him and get him back out in the world and to basically become the independent person he was before this as his family just left him in his bedroom so they could use his mobility car and benefit from the disability payments he was receiving.
Anyway after 2 more years he was still struggling mentally with everything that had gone on and we split, he told me he didn't love me, we had lost our connection and wanted me to move on and find someone else. I did move on, well I tried to, I just couldn't make it work because I was still in love with me ex. I contacted him after breaking up with the new man and we were getting along great as friends, he showed no interest at wanting to be anything other than friends and I accepted that, I was just happy to have him back in my life.
After a month or so I ended up sleeping with the man I'd just broke up with, it was a one time thing and we didn't speak after that night. Then a week later my ex showed interest in me and we slept together. Fast forward a month and I found out I was pregnant and obviously I don't know who the dad is. The day I found out is the day I went and told me ex about the baby and the other man and the fact I didn't know if it was his baby or not. It has broke him completely!! He tried to stay around, he was there for 3 weeks but then left. Now he will not even speak to me properly until the day I do a paternity test he said.
I had a terrible pregnancy at the start I was in so much pain so was in hospital a lot, my friends all know about the situation and so do some medical professionals. The thing is a lot of them keep asking me why I even told him it might not be his baby in the first place, they say I should have kept it to myself. I don't know if I could have kept it to myself, I know people that have done that and they are unsure of the dad and those children are adults now and it's still a secret, I couldn't live with myself to do that to him but now I'm thinking should I have just not told him and let him believe its his baby for the baby to have a family and to have not hurt him so bad? Sorry for the long post