Baby with herpes

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So I am currently pregnant I want a c section due to my anxiety over my genital herpes. having herpes isn't deemed a good enough reason to have a medical c section unless you have caught it throughout your pregnancy (if you had it prior then your baby will have antibodies and be at very low risk around 1%-3% risk of catching it, and even if they do the infection would probabaly be mild). however.. I don't want to take the risk, even though its like 1%. im sad because i wanted a vaginal birth, but i am just so anxious about this i feel better eliminating the risk to my baby completley. I don't want baby to even have a mild infection, especially as its a virus that lives with you forever. I couldn't deal with the guilt. midwife just says 'well there are worse things baby can get like HIv.' she's made me feel stupid for worrying about this and wanting the section but I still want it. I know my worry is disproportionate to the risk but still, it should be valid?

2nd question is i've read that babies that did get born vaginally and get the mothers antibodies could get the infection but it would only be mild illness or are completely asymptomatic and just carry the virus. my query is, if they are asymptomatic (so you don't even know they caught it) can it pop up at any point and where on their body??? or ,if they had neonatal herpes and then recover from it, can they get flare ups/ become symptomatic at any point in their life and Will they have it on their genitals or face?

I don't blame you'd I'd want a c section too

Could you have one privately. ? X

Were the answers on the other 9 threads in the last 2 weeks not helpful?
Seriously, book an appointment with your midwife and consultant - it's literally what they are there for! They will know far better than anyone here.

There is no need to be so rude to clearly someone who is worried is there.

I thought you could just request a c section. You can in our trusts anyway. Granted it might not go ahead but they give you a choice.

Push for a c section and take it further.

@PinkButtercups no one can help here. There have been daily identical threads, and nothing helps. Op needs to speak to a specialist, not unqualified people on mumsnet who aren't medically trained to give the advice needed.
I'd rather be slightly abrupt than hand out potentially incorrect or dangerous information.

There are ways to word things though and you came across very rude. They're clearly anxious and worried so something to bare in mind.