Hello, I was wondering if anyone has any advice for me.
I've got a 9 month old baby and since he was born, my partner has not yet put him to bed and has only fed him once.
He works, then goes to the gym, then goes through to his office and works more, before going to bed. If I ask him to spend time with the baby, he says he's working hard now to give our child a good future, and that he needs the gym or his mental health would suffer.
I do every feed, bath and bedtime on my own and it's starting to feel very monotonous - I've lost my social life whilst he carries on like he doesn't have a baby.
My son refuses the bottle so is obviously very attached to me but my partner promised he'd step up and cook for and feed our son when he started weaning but that's yet to happen. If I ask for help, he says he's too busy and if I get annoyed/upset, he manipulates things to the point where he says that I have it easy because I don't currently 'work'.
On the weekends, if I convince him to go out with me and the baby he guilt trips me and we can't do anything that takes the whole day as he can't miss the gym. However, if one of his gym friends wants to hang out after their workout and go for food, he's happy to go.
Do you have any advice for how I can try get him to cut down/spend more time with our baby? I don't want him to grow up feeling let down by his dad. I've been with my partner for 15 years so have given up hope of him prioritising me but I at least want him to prioritise our baby.
Thank you! :)