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Son says he wishes he lived with Dad

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ESTCHILMUM · 14/09/2022 15:39

My son is seven years old and on our walk to school this morning he mentioned that he wished he lived with his dad. To be honest this was really unexpected and I was in tears by the time I got home. My son's father and I split up just before he turned two years old and he has lived with me since, visiting his father every other weekend and having tea in the week with him. Until my son turned around six his father spent most of his time going out with friends, even when he was supposed to have my son he would leave him with grandparents and he still went out. over the last few months he has found a girlfriend, she has an 8 year old son and has very recently moved in with them. I also have a fiance who lives with me. We had a son together last year and the four of us have lived happily together, or at least that's what I thought. My son says he wants to live with his father because his girlfriends son is their for him to play with. Its just really difficult and upsetting to hear as I have recently returned to work after being on maternity, I work shifts and feel like I'm trying hard to keep everybody happy and equally being there for both my sons. I'm just not sure on what to do next. If anyone has any help or advice to offer me I would really appreciate it.

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Lalacazza · 14/09/2022 15:46

It's really hard. But try not to take it as personally as it probably comes across.

It is good that he gets on well with his dad's new partner and her child. He is just excited about a permanent play mate. It is not reflection on you as a parent. My 9YO wanted to live with his best friend cos they have a dog.

When you get a chance, have a relaxed chat with him about what moving in with dad would mean. That you won't always be there etc. Has he even spoken to his dad about this? Is dad and his new partner even onboard with the idea?

Perhaps as a start, he could go there an extra day a week?

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