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Completely Defeated and Depressed

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Curls91 · 13/09/2022 20:55

My LO is almost 7 months. Her sleep is HORRIFIC, has been since the 4 month sleep regression and has got slowly worse where i actually don’t think it can get much worse than this.

At night she wakes every hour and will only BF back to sleep, often wakes at 3am and relentlessly stays awake until 6am where she will then maybe have 30-40 mins more.

a really bad night is waking every ten minutes.

a good night is waking every two hours.

daytime naps are almost impossible to achieve and can only be achieved at home by BFing to sleep and placing in crib where she was having 45mins and now is basically having 20-25 minutes. Out of the house she won’t nap at all, literally all day.

she screams absolute bloody murder in the pushchair and the car and never relents and falls asleep.

I have tried every single sleep training method in creation (each one consistently for a week or so) and each have made absolutely zero difference.

I tried cosleeping and sleep is exactly the same just with me horrendously uncomfortable.

she’s no better with DH, worse really because he can’t just resort to BFing.

she is a lovely, happy baby but is consistently overtired but just resists all my efforts, it’s horrible to see this joyful little girl for twenty minutes after she’s slept and then watch her become completely miserable so quickly because she’s never rested.

she will only ever have three naps in the day so I can’t even try to squeeze in more short naps because she simply won’t have them.

tonight after 25 horrific minutes of CIO (I know I know, don’t judge) I have given up all hope that anything will ever work and we’re going to be stuck in this endless Groundhog Day where I battle her overtiredness and fail, she’s miserable, and we go nowhere and do nothing because she’ll sleep even less if we do.

im not sure if I’m even asking for help as I’ve tried it all or if I’m just ranting about how utterly defeated I am.

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Curls91 · 13/09/2022 20:57

I have also been down every route of allergies and silent reflux. There’s nothing wrong so far as anyone can tell, she just can’t and won’t self settle and if I could BF to sleep and it resulted in her getting decent chunks of sleepy I’d happily continue but this just isn’t sustainable like this

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HarrietSchulenberg · 13/09/2022 21:01

Have you tried a dummy? I know they're not particularly fashionable but my GP suggested one when my youngest was similar to yours and, much as I initially detested the idea, it worked wonders. He was not crying from hunger, he just wanted the comfort of sucking something to get back to sleep.
The downside is that you'll still have to pop it back in when your baby wakes up when it's fallen out, but the upside is they'll go straight back to sleep.
Mine gave it up completely when he was just over 2 when we gave it to Father Christmas' reindeer one year, so you won't be saddled with it forever.

seahorsegrass · 13/09/2022 21:03

I really sympathise, my DS was very similar, I can even look back at the Huckleberry app and see quite how horrendous it was. My solution was to co sleep - but with earplugs in, and an eye mask - otherwise he would just keep me up with his noises that I was so tuned into, yet I could still hear him when he was half waking and crying. Not sure that's useful, but it changed my ability to sleep next to him. He has got better as he's grown, and whilst those days were super long and I was unmotivated to get anything done for being so tired, I can now breaks remember them. Sending hugs

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Miriam101 · 13/09/2022 21:17

sounds horrific, I'm sorry. terrible sleep nearly broke me. you won't want to read it but controlled crying was the thing that worked for us. it really did. no, it wasn't pleasant. but we are ALL so much happier as a result of it. anyway, I hope you find a way through this difficult stage. it is so so hard. but it won't be like this forever and it WILL END!! Eventually!

Endlesslaundry123 · 13/09/2022 21:19

I recommend reading Precious Little Sleep, fast read with tons of great info. Helped my daughter sleep after a similar up-every-hour situation. Grab the ebook and read during your nursing sessions.

Curls91 · 14/09/2022 06:26

Thank you for your replies.

I’ve tried a dummy several times and she has no interest whatsoever

cosleeping just doesn’t work, it’s not what she wants as it doesn’t make getting to sleep or staying asleep or early wakings any different

I’ll look into Precious Little Sleep but I feel like I’ve literally tried everything there is to try at this point.

im not judgy about Controlled Crying but I’ve tried it and she’s so ridiculously hysterical that I just can’t continue it, I’m fairly certain she’d only make herself sick anyway

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Sleepymama22 · 13/05/2023 21:13

Hi Curls91,
Im currently in the same situation with my 7 month old. Can i ask if you managed to find something that worked and how your LO is doing now?

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