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Working part time

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Greeneggsandham202 · 13/09/2022 16:37

Hello,

posting to is on here as I’ve had no replies on the chat i’m planning to go back part time after mat leave of my first baby.

can I ask those who work part time what days/hours you worked and why?

also did you find it harder to keep up with load or did your employer take it into account?

i was considering doing 4 days but know for a fact that I’d end up doing 5 days work in 4 but with 3 days that wouldn’t be able to happen.

I was thinking 3 days and doing mon, tues, weds.

i think it may work better for bank holidays. Also it’d still give me the ‘Sunday night’ feeling of getting everything ready for the week ahead rather than me unconsciously slipping into having 2 Sunday night feelings as I could picture me telling DP I’d just do my Sunday night things on Monday and spend both Sunday and Monday doing my laundry, lunches etc. DP works mon-fri and usually makes our lunches so would be easier to just get it all done together?

Other options are:

tues, weds and thurs
weds thurs fri
mon, weds and fri - but think that maybe to spread out.

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Greeneggsandham202 · 14/09/2022 21:48

felulageller · 14/09/2022 19:15

For more ££ you could try monthly hours or a fortnightly rota of 3 days/ 4 days.

That’s actually a really good idea!! I will put that down as a solid option.

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Margo34 · 14/09/2022 22:21

0live · 14/09/2022 15:24

@Margo34

What on earth is "wifework"? It sounds very dated and not very 21st century!

Google is your friend.

And why would someone working part-time do 100% childcare and housework? Again I'd say that's outdated and not fair either

I'd still expect the full-timer to do half the housework and half the childcare that crops up outside of the full-time work which is very different from the part timer doing 100% of everything

@0live and why should the childcare costs all come out from the part-time wage? Childcare enables both partners to work whether part or full time so it is a joint and shared cost

Im guessing you don’t have children @Margo34 and that you are new to Mumsnet . There’s a very large gap between what you think is fair, what most women expect And what actually happens in most heterosexual families where the man works FT and the woman works PT.

Welcome to the patriarchy.

@0live I am still none the wiser as to what wifework is. Google sent me to an Amazon link for a book sharing that in its title. So as you don't seem to want to share your interpretation, I'll assume you don't really know yourself either.

I have children and not new to MN. Sounds like you might live with a large gap between fairness and actuality in your experience and I'm sorry to assume that for you.

Aintnosupermum · 15/09/2022 00:27

So the housing is challenging. You have the right agreements set up for the purchase so your deposit is safe. The issue comes in where he can prove he has contributed to the running of the house (as in paying rent, for repairs, capital improvements) either directly or indirectly. It’s not straight forward and you need an experienced solicitor to walk you through the law, how it’s applied and how you can protect your asset.

As an example, I own a home in London which I own in my name only and my money alone has paid for the home. The husband hated the bathroom and for my 40th he redid the bathroom as a ‘gift’. It was a £45k refurbishment because the plumbing in the whole home was redone (he was also had and if he hadn’t done this as a surprise I would have been forceful about not doing this work for that price). All of a sudden in our mediation he had a right to the home despite the fact that it was a gift and clearly understood to be a gift at the time of performance/Delivery of gift. Meanwhile, he has a place in Miami in his name only and paid for with his income. It’s wholly his. I lucked out that for my 30th birthday he took me to Puerto Rico for a party. It didn’t cost as much as the bathroom but it was a high percentage of his income at the time. My argument was the trip was equally as lavish a gift.

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