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Help! I cant potty train my 3 yr old ds and i'm at my wits end! Advice please...

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Chattyhan · 23/01/2008 15:56

We are getting nowhere despite it being over a year since he did his first wee on the potty. He's just not interested and my patience is wearing thin. He can do it but had just as many accidents as successes.

We have tried loads of attempts over the past year and he can do it but just not all the time! We seem to be more successful with no clothes on but he is able to pull down/up pants and trousers. We seem to get nowhere so give in and go back to nappies and i ask him if he needs to use the potty at bathtime/nappy changes but usually the answer is no. Today is our most recent attempt and we started at 12 after playgp he had 2 wees on the potty in quick succession and then we had a near poo episode where he just wouldn't go and started getting really upset despite me sitting with him reading stories then he really wanted a nappy on so i agreed that he could but when he'd done a poo off it came. After 15 mins he hadn't had a poo and i said we should take the nappy off and i didn't want wee in the nappy - while i said this he was weeing! he had one more success then 2 accidents in trousers the first time i was very calm and patient and 'never mind' but the second time i couldn't help being frustrated he said sorry and agreed to try harder especially being as he was only 1 success away from his 5 success present and then he had a wee on the floor a foot away from his potty and i hit the roof i can't understand what we're doing wrong. We've tried sweets, stickers, the big boy routine, sticker charts, and we're now trying to bribe him with presents but he's not doing it! Next suggestion please!

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Cashby · 03/02/2008 20:34

Had a breakthrough this week, and nothing that we did. DD just decided she could do it after all and started telling us before the event. Lots of praise reinforced by choc button rewards seemed to cement it. She seems to have forgotten about the choc already though, which is a good thing. We decided to be more positive and keep going whatever, as we could not face another stop start. In our case it seems it was just a case of being patient, sticking with it and having the confidence that she could do it. Have to see how the next few weeks go, but it is all going in the right direction at the moment.

madamez · 03/02/2008 20:40

My DS is 3.4 and we are just about starting to get somewhere (after several previous attempts completely failed and he got a bit upset). His nursery said that they would give it a try to see if he would do it as one of his friends is also training... he is in pants at nursery but refuses to wear them at home (so I put him in pullups which he will accept), however he did 4 wees in toilets today (out and about with daddy), and this week he has 2 consecutive days at nursery as I have a training course, so we might be on our way.
As everyone keeps telling me, they all get there in the end...

josey · 04/02/2008 12:41

You could try getting one of the boy potty story books, I got a couple of the girl ones for DD who refused to look at her potty, she loves the book so much that she asked to try her potty and a week on she is dry.

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rainbowdays · 04/02/2008 15:46

I just want to add that I have just spent what felt like forever, ok so was over a year, trying to potty train my ds. I started before he was 3 (as we wanted him to go to nursery), and it was an uphill struggle all the way, I tried everything it felt like. I just gave up in the end and put up with endless accidents as refused to put him back in nappies. Anyway just before christmas, at 4 years and 4 months, he just got it, suddenly no more accidents. I could hardly believe it, I was getting worried re:school, but it just happened!

Now I am in the midst of my dd in potty training, she is 3 years 3months, and I have to say I am not letting myself stress over the fact that she is going to be late in training too, I am just letting it happen in its own time. Hate all the extra washing, but putting up with it.

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