What happened to my loving daughter?

[sandytoesallsummer]

I have two DD, 7 and 12.

My eldest has always been such a sweet, caring, considerate lovely girl (youngest is a little monkey but that's not what this is about 🤣) but since she started Secondary School last year I feel like I don't know her anymore.

She's moody, she's sullen, she has attitude - something which I never would have expected from her. There are times when I see glimpses of the old her, the caring considerate part, but most of the time she is moody. We went for a family day out yesterday which is something I knew she would love to do and she was quiet and moody most of the time. I kept asking her what was wrong and just got "nothing".

She always used to be kind to her sister too, but now she is mean to her which is horrible to witness.

She has a group of friends who seem nice, quite loud and typical young teenagers really.

I know she is a young teen and hormones are raging but I am shocked she has changed so much.

Should I worry?

(I know she isn't being bullied/there's nothing sinister going on as she would have said - she's open about all friendship dramas etc)

www.amazon.co.uk/Mum-Whats-Wrong-You-Mothers/dp/0008407258/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1662974992&sr=8-1

I'd recommend this.

She is changing as you know but you don't have to put up with some of it, being mean isn't necessary for a young teen I would pull her up on it every single time, it will definitely pass but keep on top of it.being this age everything is awkward everything is annoying and it's all about them it's bloody exhausting.

During the teen years the brain actually changes dramatically. Its often referred to as going back to toddlerhood but instead of tantrums where they throw themselves on the floor, its sulking and being rude.
She will eventually come out the other side and be a pleasant young adult.

I was like this once I started secondary school, I was moody and really quite mean to my beloved mum who was persistently loving and supporting but I couldn't help it, it was hormones and I feel terrible looking back.

I loved my mum deep down though and maybe the safety of unconditional love enabled me to take life out on her.
I got through it though and became that lovely girl again with an amazing relationship with my mum.
My mum always said I got to twelve and I changed for a couple of years but I came back. Just be there through it and don't take it personally.