Do you have to sleep train for baby to sleep good?

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Ftm to 6 month old who wakes a lot at night.
My mother and mother in law have both said this is what I need to do for him to sleep better.
I already decided before I got pregnant that leaving my baby to cry, for any period of time, is not something I want to do.
So for any mamas that did not do CIO or controlled crying, did your baby eventually sleep through and if so when?
I keep hearing how if I don’t sleep train he will be waking up multiple times until he’s 5/6/7 years old. If that is the case then it still won’t make me want to sleep train, but it would make me feel a lot better if someone told me their slept through before then!

It's a lot of luck. My 3 have all been totally different.

Sleep is really important. I know how awful I feel now after 1 broken night. I also remember the fog lifting as sleep got better.

We had 1 sleep through unprompted at 3 weeks. Another who we did do a bit of controlled crying for 3 nights. They then slept through from 6 months. Then number 3, who didn't sleep through until age 3. We tried everything. It wasn't until she could talk and we could discuss things that things improved.

Am always sceptical when people declare a certain solution works. Ime the solution that works is child dependant.

These are lies. There is not one single scientific study that shows increased levels of stress before and after sleep training. Stop lying to try and legitimise your opinions on sleep training. Opinions are not facts.

Sleep training does in fact show fantastic results in creating actual changes in baby sleep, improving the quality and length of it. Sleep training doesn't work for every baby, that much is true, you just have to give it a go and see if it takes. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Some babies also sleep through the night from day one.

Let's all stop making sleep training a moral issue when it isn't one - it's just as legitimate as cuddling baby to sleep every night and doesn't harm babies in any way👌

It's totally child dependent and I thought sleep training sounded horrible in principle, but I did CIO with my DD at 11 months, up till that point she had been a good sleeper BUT we were cuddling/feeding to sleep, if she woke in the night she would go back to sleep after a quick cuddle/feed etc.

She got to 11 months and bam, she just didn't want to be put down anymore, would wake 45 minutes after finally falling asleep, woke every 2 hours at least, took ages to fall back to sleep, would not settle if my DH went to her, she would scream and cry for me and settle as soon as I walked in, I spent hours in the chair with her waiting for her to fall asleep.

There was nothing wrong with her, I think she was just used to being cuddled to sleep and wanted that every time she woke up, and she had learned that if she cried I'd go to her as I always had, but I was putting her down at 8pm, working at home in the evening till 2am, going to sleep then up at 8am, so when she started waking up every 1-2 hours, instead of once a night I was on the verge of breakdown. One night I had an hours sleep, it was beyond ridiculous and I was exhausted, she was exhausted from the broken sleep too.

I decided to do CIO, because the ferber method I thought would be confusing, the first night she cried for 15 minutes, then went to sleep and sleep through the rest of the night! After 4 nights there was no more crying, she just started going to sleep as soon as I put her down, and was then sleeping 12 hours every night uninterrupted, I honestly couldn't believe it, after two weeks she was happy to go to bed, no tears, no sadness, just kisses, cuddles and goodnights.

My personal opinion is that she needed to learn how to self settle, and once she had that she was happier, more rested child for it, and I was happier getting a full nights sleep again, I think there is an optimum time to do it and only you as a parent know when they are ready to learn, and if it is the right solution for them.