DS preference is always dad

[Saturdaytrain]

This has been on my mind for about 9 months.

Over this time, our DS (coming up to 2 next month) has had a definite preference for DH. It used to upset me more but I try to not take it personally and I persevere being positive and attentive around him. Since yesterday though when my mum was saying 'i dont know how best you should manage that', I said it won't last and she said 'well you were never like that' it's got me wondering.

I guess it's just planted that seed that perhaps it has been a bit long now. Maybe I need to do something as it doesn't seem to be going on its own?

We probably spend equal time with DS though all I can think when we're all together, I'm more likely to take on the chores. DH just doesn't think anything needs doing! In my mind and I suspect a lot of peoples, there's always something that needs doing! I'm sometimes told the chores can wait but it's not like I'm obsessively clean and tidy. I'm sure you'll understand how these things can really get on top of you when you're both working full time.

Any ideas when my DS will stop screaming and throwing things when my DH hands him over to me? Any ideas if there's anything I can do to?

I haven't got any advice for you but the same thing is happening to me. My daughter is 2 and has had a preference for dad for about a year. It really hurts my feelings and I feel like I have done something wrong. I am sure it is normal though, even if it doesn't happen to everyone.

Don't take it personally, things can and do change.

My DC prefers me when hungry/tired/unwell but prefers DH when wanting to be entertained.

You can either let it be and go with it, or alternatively you allow DS to scream and shout and let him learn that no matter how much he does it, Mummy is staying and he's got to live with it.

It swaps about a fair bit over their lives in my experience. Don’t fret it.