Experience of a 2 year 9 month age gap

[Harriet428]

This is the age gap I am aiming for, said we will start trying when DD is 18 months with the aim of falling by the time she turns two
does anyone have this gap?

I had 2years 9 months between DC2 and DC3.

It was fine, DC2 was out of nappies by then and he was able to understand about being gentle with baby. I didn't bother with a double pram, I made sure I took a sling everywhere with me and DC2 would get in the pram when he felt tired and DC3 could go in the sling.

They're 8 and 6 now and play well together.

This exact age gap worked well for us.

Eldest was still in nappies but not for long after youngest was born. Eldest was very grumpy with us for the first few weeks as expect, but absolutely adored baby from the word go. Used to sing/chat to my bump etc.

Pregnancy was more tiring as we were in the height of the "terrible twos" & eldest happened to drop their nap so I was rather exhausted towards the end of pregnancy.

It was extremely busy that first year as I have iffy sleepers & baby had colic.

Few years on they are the best of friends and thick as thieves. Eldest doesn't remember life life without the youngest.

We love watching them grow together, best thing we did.

I have 2 years 10 months and it worked well in the early years. Older child knew how to be gentle, was toilet trained (had a slight regression but nothing major) only needed a single buggy as oldest walked every where. Struggling alightly now at 7 and 4, the gap feels huge as the oldest has left behind the infant stage.

This is the age gap ours have and IMO it is absolutely perfect.

Close enough in age that they are playmates/partners in crime now (3 and 5) but the older one was old enough to be a bit less dependent when the younger one was born

Mine was a slightly small gap but it works so well. Eldest doesn't remember not having youngest and was independent enough to be helpful but they're close enough to play together and have same interests

We have this exact age gap with DS1 and DS2. Pregnancy was absolutely hardcore to the point I chose to be induced after only being a week over my EDD as I couldn’t take pregnancy with a 2 year old for another minute, let alone a day. We are yet to see how things will pan out properly but they have a wonderful bond already. My eldest is the only one who can stop the youngest crying. It’s some sort of magic. They are 8 months and 3 but so far aside from a tricky few weeks at the start it’s been as “good” as it could have been. Also some days I want to walk out the door, for balance 🤣

We had that age gap and it worked well. Older DC was a little jealous at first but that passed. They are adult now but incredibly close as ever.