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Stepdaughter being careless with baby

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Arcoiris3101 · 07/09/2022 12:01

So my LG is 7 months old and I have a stepdaughter (8yo) who lives 3 days a week with us. I love her to bits but her behaviour lately is getting to me.

When she tries to engage with the baby, she keeps shaking her (in a playful way tbf) but she does it too vigorously and the baby has fallen on her back and hit her head a couple of times. When she also plays peekaboo she does it too loudly and sudden so my baby gets scared and again if she's standing which she has only learnt to do recently she has lost balance and hurt herself. I have told my SD time and time again to play gently and to leave baby to roam freely (she can crawl so is mobile enough).

This morning happened again and honestly I lost it a little bit. My husband was also pretty upset with his daughter as she doesn't seem to listen. I do think she is having a hard time adjusting and we do try to spend some good quality time as a family and with her alone but this is getting to me and I'm starting to resent her a little bit.
Any tips or anyone who can sympathise?

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MsChatterbox · 07/09/2022 12:04

Yes my 4 nearly 5 year old can be rough too!

Just need to not leave them unsupervised together, compliment when she's playing softly with her and give her jobs to do with the baby like helping to feed her etc

Unicorn55 · 07/09/2022 13:06

I totally get your concern and worry and annoyance and I think we find stuff harder to accept and cope with when it is our stepchildren but what you're describing is pretty much any older sibling I know of, full or half😂 just think at least you only have this 3 days a week and it's nice that SD wants to play with her sister. It will get easier as your youngest gets older and is a bit more robust but it'll probably change to then annoying each other... one of mine currently doesn't like being looked at by the other😂 I really like the PP suggestions praising gentle play and getting her involved in feeding bathing etc x

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