Toddler behaviour book recommendations- Struggling Mumma!

[Shleepymummy]

Hi all

Any recommendations for books to deal with toddler behaviour/tantrums/life in general?! My baby is 16 months so not even really a toddler but god is she pushing me recently. If the books starts around that age great, can’t really use ideas where you communicate a lot with the child because she doesn’t speak yet or have that understanding.

Issues we are having:
-Refuses to hug me, acknowledge me, even be near me- it’s all Daddy/nursery worker/Nana/the postman but won’t come near me. Actively stays away from me, pushes me away, wants nothing to do with me. Feels like crap and I just don’t enjoy being around her recently because of it 😢
-Throws tantrums about really minor issues, flings herself back on the floor, goes rigid if I try to pick her up. Takes a lot to calm her down and only her blanky usually helps.
-Started to not eat what she used to, throw food, refuse meals.

It’s all just a lot at the moment and instead of guessing how to help and probably making it worse, figured I should get some books and try and support her through this properly.
I don’t want anything too prescriptive like Gina Ford, happy to do gentle parenting but at the same time we aren’t the family where baby sleeps in our bed etc. Somewhere in the middle of these 2 schools of thought.

Thanks in advance!

Toddler taming

Aha parenting is bacon saver!

Happiest toddler on the block

I wouldn’t get upset by the first thing, she’s just excited to be around other people. You’re the constant, the safety blanket. It sucks but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you, toddlers don’t know empathy yet.

Big little feelings insta is fab.

I was going to say toddler taming too. Really helped me ! Best thing I took from it was to ignore tantrums. Walk out the room. Busy yourself Pretend your on the phone. It's like an actor with no audience. They soon stop. Brilliant piece of advice