Changing rooms

[Stripedbag101]

I took my ten year old niece swimming on Saturday morning. It’s a private lesson in a school so old fashioned boys and girls changing rooms. No cubicles

I called in to check why she hadn’t come out of the changing room yet and she was still in her swimming suit because three men were in the room. I had get a teacher to come and ask them to leave. They were quite grumpy, rolling their eyes and asking how they should change their daughters.

There is no way a ten year old girl should have to be naked in-front of three adult men. The three girls in question were also in the class - maybe 8 or 9 so old enough to change themselves.

surely grown men understand a ten year old girl who is going through puberty doesn’t want to be naked in-front of them and felt intimidated by them?

it made me so cross they had made her feel like this.

Any man of my acquaintance would have to be compelled at gunpoint to be there. Ten year old girls - special needs excepted - are not changed out of swimsuits and dressed by their fathers. I'd find the behaviour very odd indeed. My son seemed to enter a zen state in the boys' changing room but I would never have contemplated going in to hurry him along.

My son has Sen and needs support we access the womens changing room as I am female. I would not go to the mens to change him.

I know - I can only assume they are used to family style changing rooms, and hadn’t really though that other girls would want grown men around while they change.

not sure why they didn’t take their girls into the boys changing rooms if they really get they couldn’t get changed by themselves.

my niece knew she didn’t want to change - but didn’t know what to do and I didn’t want to make her feel like it was her being silly. They men made it obvious they were annoyed about having to leave. Entitled prats.

"asking how they should change their daughters."

In the men's room if the girls are young enough. But in most circumstances, I'd think 8 or 9 should be old enough to manage by themselves in the girls. Regardless, men have no business going in the girls changing rooms.