When did your lo started to sleep on their own?

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All my friends are putting their babies (5-7 months) through sleep training & they all sleep on their own.
We tried it but didn't work for us. We went for a gentle approach but still, it was making my lo very upset. She cried a lot during 1st two nights & then we put the training on hold as I'm not willing to put my baby through this

The trainer told us that babies don't learn to sleep on their own & at some point we will have to go through the training.

Is that true? Did you go through training too or your lo learn to sleep on their own when they reached a certain age?

My eldest didn't fall asleep on his own until 12 months old. He just gradually got there after being rocked and then cuddled to sleep. With youngest, he was able to settle himself for naps from 6 weeks old. At night I cuddled him to sleep until about six months old.

Every baby is different.

7 years! Yep still sharing a bed with my 7yo, my eldest was 3 when she went into her own room.

DS was in his own cot, in his own room after about a week, I was so sleep deprived after a week. Every move he made, every gurgle, I was wide awake.

We followed a schedule though and did the bedtime routine at 6ish, then wake for the dream feed at 10ish etc. He was and still is a great sleeper.

DD (3.5) just gradually went into her own room from about 2.5. She still appears to get in with one of us in the night (currently DH as I am cosleeping with newborn DD2).

It depends if it actually bothers you not. My driving motivators are the most sleep for everyone and no stress at bedtime, and our approach worked for both those things!

And of course children learn to sleep alone. How many adults do you know sleeping with their parents?! They all get there in their own time. Sleep training wasn't for us, but DD was a great sleeper from birth and I genuinely enjoyed cosleeping with her so never felt the need.

Ditch the books and ignore what other people's babies are allegedly doing. People lie so much about baby sleep for some reason. 7-7 is seen like some badge of virtue.

3 kids all different.
Eldest went in his own room and cot, right next door at about 6wks. Didn't sleep through til 2. We tried all sorts, nothing made a difference.
Middle one, great sleeper. Was in with us in a cot, til about a year. By which time he slept through almost every night.
Youngest is 18mths, in with us in cot. We're just beginning to get back to decent sleep after she slept through for a period at 8-11wks.
All breast fed, baby led weaning. I mention this as I have at least 4 friends who bottle fed babies have slept through sooner. However all bar one have dealt with colic, allergies and fussy eaters.
Eldest kept his naps til he was almost 4, middle one dropped all naps by the time he was 2. Youngest naps but generally fights them.
I think it's pot luck to some degree so many factors. By number 3 I've learnt to try not to worry too much and do what I thinks best.

My son was about four when he would fall asleep on his own at night, until then he needed me there to go to sleep, so I’d get in with him and he would be cuddled to sleep. He was a good sleeper though, so he’d be asleep within about 20 minutes. Our daughter (10m) does sometimes fall asleep on her own at night, it really varies, the busier the day the more comforting she needs from us.

4 years old she started reliably sleeping through in her own room, she sleeps brilliantly now as a 6 year old, we co-slept to ensure best sleep for everyone until she was ready to move on. I personally don't agree with sleep training. I also think it probably only works with children who are ready to sleep on their own anyway. Go at your child's pace, make adaptions so you get the best sleep you can and don't worry, your child won't be sleeping with you as a teen! It will happen!

I put DS in his own room at about 6 months - we’d just been away visiting family all over the place so for a few weeks he had been sleeping in different rooms/travel cot and when we got home I thought now is the time he’d least notice! So 6 months. The first couple of nights it took him a while to get to sleep but nothing too major xo

I don't know weather it's training as such but yes I do think there has to be a certain amount of crying before they learn to sleep in their cot. It al depends how much crying the parents can tolerate before they give In !!! Each to their own. I personally do t see how co sleeping can be safe and the thought of rolling over onto them terrified me. I think they are safer in their own bed even if they do cry at least they won't be crushed

Mine fed to sleep all the time until 7m. Then they just seemed to stop at bedtime/naptime, although would feed back to sleep in the night. So around 7/8m they were going from drowsy to sleep in the cot at the start of the night. By 9/10m they were going from awake to sleep at the start of the night. We 'worked' on this by reducing cuddles/singing but they weren't crying.

We had to night wean to get them sleeping through, which we did successfully at 11m with both. (DS we tried earlier and gave up as he would just be awake for ages!). Night weaning involved cuddling etc but no feeding. So we did sleep train, but not using CC or any of the 'official' methods.