I just cannot do it anymore, I realy cant, I just lost it again, I can't cope, I dont know how to do it right

[TrinityRhinosDhWonHerAnIPOD]

dd2 is 2.10
she has been out of nappies for about 4 months now
sh knows when she needs the loo
she goes on her own and wiped herself
tells me she needs it qwhen out
she can flus and wash her hands
shes very clever about it

she immeadiately stopeed having any trouble with constipation once out of nappies

BUT she will just wet herself if she feels like it

She has dont ittwice today and laughs
I LOSE IT
I just smacked her

I just told her that she will have to go back in nappies if she can't leanr to use the toilet when she nees to wee and she is now wearing one of her nightime nappies

Idont think I did the whole training thing very well
gecko was quite young and I didn't want to train her but then she wanted to and I thought I should
all went well for about 2 weeks, she really trued and had few accidents
now you can just see that she can do it but chooses not to
HELP
I tried the 'aren't you a ig clever girl', 'oh you dont want to wee on your speciqal dora knickers' and that sort of thing and praising hugely when she wernt to the loo but she doesn't seem to care about wetting herself
I know she is young and I'm not desperate for her to out of nappies BUT I can't cope with her peeing all over the place, we passed that bit, she learnt really quickly, she KNOWS when she needs to go
she does and the announces I've weeed' with a huge cheeky grin on her face
I've tried just cleaning her up without mentioning it but she still does and now I smakced her and I feel terrible
I cant stand it

someone speak to me even to tell me to get a grip

I know everyone hates her but try and get a copy of Gina Fords seven day potty training plan. It includes info on children regressing and stuff like that.

It worked for me and ds anyway.

HTH i know how frustrating it can be but try not to show her how angry you are. Maybe she's doing it to get a reaction? Are you busy around the house and she attracts your attention this way?

thanks mosschops
I really dont know anymore, I#m just in a mess about the whole thing

I'm going to look for that book

Oh how irritating trinity. One of the 2 occasions I have smacked dd1 was when she wet herself twice in an afternoon, months after she was capable of being dry, and I lost it. (I was gutted by myself)

Have you tried reverting to sticker chart - but make the prize hard to attain and only give one sticker per dry day (so she has to work long term at it). Then a really good day out/[prize etc.

I haven't tried a sticker chart but mainly because I think I;m too crap to keep it up properly so it would be effective

Do you think she might be able to be responsble for reminding you? If its a really good prize? My dd2, 3 last wk would really like a day at our local safari park with macD's for lunch. I'm betting she'd remind me to do stickers if she knew this was on cards when she gets to (say) 50.

Come on, babes, it isn't so bad.

REmember the mantra

This too will pass, this too will pass, this too...

I know its awful but ds ate his own bodyweight in chocolate coins when he was training!
Only initially though and an extra big one for poo's on the toilet.

I find a little bribery often goes a long way with my kids

My DD1 has been trained for 9mths and is dry day and night.
She now has become lazy and justs wets. Its nothing to do with not being train but more going through a stage of being lazy.
I am hoping we are through it.

I was in the same position as you when dd was that age, absolutely out of my mind. She's now over 4 and still has fairly regular accidents (at least just wee). Only thing which worked a bit was a sticker chart - but you have to be consistent with it and do it for at least a week, it may take that long to have any effect.

Best advice - find a way to be calm about it, accept that it will happen, accept that you may be cleaning up wee for a long while. dont let it dominate your relationship with dc.

I was really misled by the Gina ford book - in our case it took a whole lot longer than a week!