After 2 a half years of tiredness, my toddler has finally begun to sleep in his own room, without me. I should be relieved, but I’m not, I’m a nervous wreck.
I’ve got used to co-sleeping to help him sleep and now I can’t get over the anxiety that something bad might happen while I’m asleep in the other room.
I’ve got a video monitor but the picture quality isn’t great, and if he’s lying still I can’t really be sure that he’s ok. I can’t use an under-mattress sensor as he’s in a big bed and the mattress is too thick. He had a clip-on (to his nappy) sensor when he was younger but we can’t use that any more as he just fiddles with it and takes it off.
Any reassurance to get me used to this new set up? I’m tempted to go and sleep on his bedroom floor so that I am closer to him but I suppose that’s a step backwards.
In a different situation I’d be tempted to just try and push through the anxiety; but my mind questions what if it’s instinct rather than anxiety? And perhaps I should go and check on him again. Surely the only difference between anxiety and instinct is whether or not something bad actually happens.
How often do you check on your children once they start sleeping through?
And is this a normal nervousness that most mums go through, or am I being silly?