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Tomorrowsanotherday1 · 29/08/2022 23:15

Hi
Looking for some advice.
My husband and I have 2 DD's ages 6 and 10. We tend to have different parenting styles - I have a softer parenting style and he is much much harsher as in he tends to shout at them when they don't do as he asks and I really think it's impacting their relationship with him. He is a lovely fun dad in other ways and can be v caring but just can't handle when they disobey him. No need to advise me that they are their own people and this attitude is completely wrong. I tell him this all the time but he just can't seem to react in any other way.

DD 10 is v sensitive so my husband's tendency to get cross with them when she doesn't do what he asks really doesn't end well, DD 6 needs a lot of attention which is quite tiring so this can be challenging when he/I/We need a little time out and can end in him getting cross as she is consistently on the go and needing interaction.

We had some marriage counselling recently and the penny dropped during this that one of the main causes of conflict in our marriage is our differing approach to parenting.

I am thinking some sort of parenting course might help us get some consistency in our approach. Does anyone have anything they recommend? We're in the UK, in NW England.

Thanks for your help!

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cardboardbox24 · 29/08/2022 23:40

I think it would be helpful for your husband to attend individual therapy sessions to look at what is triggering his reactions to their behaviour. As for parenting courses, if you contact your local Early Help service they should be able to let you know what is on offer. There are lots of different kinds of courses, from those that look more at behavioural techniques to ones which focus more on attachment patterns and how parents can be more attuned to their kids. It depends what you're looking for. Personally I'd recommend Circle of Security and Reflective Parenting.

Tomorrowsanotherday1 · 30/08/2022 08:46

Thanks so much! Great advice. I didn't really know where to start. I'll look into these!
Thank you

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