Dummy 18 month old.

[ChittyBang1987]

My lo has a dummy. She's 18 months old.

I'm not looking to get rid of at night yet. During the day she is completely obsessive with it lately. Unless shes eating she has to have it in her mouth.

We encouraged her not to have in day it's has caused a few anger moments and her asking for dummy (2nd day in) I explain its for sleep only then she gets whingy for about 5 mins then stops.

Wondering am I doing the right thing just keeping for naps and night time sleep. I feel completely mean and just giving up.

Reasons to give up.
Completely obsessive with it in day and has in mouth every second of day.
Dentist has said need to get rid of at some point as we all know causes over bite, which is my concern having in her mouth all day.

Any advice? Am I being a mean mum.

Just leave it in the cot and only give it at bed or nap time. She will get over it honestly it's just a habit. I banned ours in the day at 12 months and then chopped all the teats off at 2 years old and we had 2 nights of a few tears and she was fine. I built it up to be this massive issue and it wasn't.

The advice is to get rid of it by 12m so you're not being mean at all, you've probably left it a bit late if anything!

Having a dummy in her mouth all day will be really detrimental to her speech development, as well as her teeth. I'd bin them completely and ride out the tantrums for a few days.

Hahaha yes I didn't want to say tantrums as thought it would be a mean way to say but that is literally what we're having. I have a massive headache already. There is no tears just literally whingy and tantrums she wants her dummy.

Yes I know a bit late, just didn't think of it tbh. As i started back at work at 12months and with seperation anxiety i just caved and gave the dummy. Doesn't help she's teething 🙄

She's already behind in her speech too #badmotherforleavingittolate. Teeth are currently very good, went to dentist in past couple weeks.

Thank you your right it's a habit she will get over it.

Ds2 had a dummy due to having severe reflux and we were advised to use a dummy in the day by his paediatrician to prevent scarring. He did have speech issues as they learn to talk around the dummy. This was addressed when he started preschool nursery but they then have to undo what they call things and get corrected. So nip this in the bud now to save yourself the potential issues later.

Of course your child will kick off but you can't parent around not upsetting them otherwise my children would have had chocolate for every meal

Thank you 😊
Hahaha yes I know what you mean. Just didn't know how attached she has become 😕

Dd is nearly 4 and has one for bedtime.

Don't worry about it.

If she's behind in speech I really think you just need to weather the tantrums and get rid of it during the day as it's not doing her any favours if it's setting her back v her peers. After a few (admittedly tough) days, I'm sure she will adapt.

She’s only little, teething is awful for them. DS is 17 months and really suffering at the mo, he can have his dummy as much as he wants for now.

This is what we did around same age, limit to sleep only for comfort, then when you're ready its easier to get rid of completely. We got rid via dummy fairy at 3yo

Yep we're weathing the tantrums and whingyness. I just keep reassuring her she doesn't need it and it's for sleep time..... which she proceeds to go shhhhhhhhhh as that what she says at sleep time 😆 🤣

It's amazing 2nd day with no dummy and she's already chatting away, went and saw my nan today and even she said she never seen her chatter so much. So a dummy clearly effects speech and talking. I don't think you realise the extent of how much.

I know she's little but it was becoming obsessive every single moment dummy in mouth and been like it for about 4 weeks.

Mine had a dummy, didn't use it all the time because he loved to chat and sing. Once he had a cold and his nose was blocked up, he couldn't breath comfortably with the dummy in his mouth so he took it out and threw it across the room. It landed behind the radiator and stayed there forever. He was a bit younger than yours.

Your daughter will give up her dummy soon enough. Just try to limit her use of it. If she has things to do which capture her imagination, she won't think about the dummy.

DS now 10 had one till he was 5 and had started school. It comforted him and he was obsessive. By school he knew only to have it at home but I couldn't rip it off him.

He has perfect speech and perfect teeth. He gave it up himself in his own time about mid way through reception. I wouldn't worry.

Hahaha love it dummy behind the radiator!

Well this afternoon has gone fine only asked it twice and accepted it pretty well when i said its for sleep time and shes at nursery next 2 days so hopefully the end is near for day time dummy....... or she's playing me 😆 🤣 😂

She's doing well! First couple of days are hard for them but they soon adapt.
My sons 3 and still has it on a night time.

Really lovely to hear about her speech improving! Dummies are always pushed on new parents as being the holy grail of sleep, but they are so hard to get rid of and can be really detrimental too, which people don't ever tell you!

Youre doing a great job, and so is your daughter.

Thank you all. Today she hasn't had dummy all day for 3rd day. I came home from work about an hour and half before bed time and she didn't ask once for dummy. Hopefully continues 🤞🤞