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What do you do with all the STUFF when baby #2 is an uncertainty...

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PeaceandLoveandCoffee · 28/08/2022 22:11

Bit of a boring question but just wondering what others do/did with all of the baby kit/clothes etc if you were uncertain about the idea of having a second? I've got a 2.5 year old boy and currently a lot of bags of unsorted clothes stuffed into the attic. Even thinking about them all sitting there is giving me mild anxiety and a desire to go up there and at least sort stuff by age. There's a whole mix of unworn, worn but excellent condition and heavily worn second hand stuff that might still be useful as nursery clothes. Add into this toys, next to me cot, barely touched steriliser, maternity clothes and it just feels like a lot of STUFF. We may move at some point in the next few years but that's by no means a definite.

I've never sold anything on eBay/vinted/FB marketplace etc but some of this would possibly have resale value. If not, most would appropriate to donate. We are the last of close friends/family to have children so temporarily giving bits away with the expectation of getting them back later isn't really an option.

I was pretty bad at bagging stuff by age as I found DS didn't really fit stuff in that order, could be wearing 12-18 month vests in one brand but still in 9-12 month tops in another, and 6-9 month leggings in another.

I think the situation is somewhat more emotional by the fact we have had a rough ride with losses. Had 3 before DS was born then an awful traumatic loss almost a year ago and due to treatment for this are not in a position to even begin TTC for another 9 months, so looking at at least another 18 months until another child, which makes 4 years minimum of DS' accumulated worldly possessions up in our attic if we do have a second. My heart has not given up on the idea of trying for a second but I know my head is really thinking about whether or not it is right for us to put ourselves through another attempt at TTC as well as the more practical and financial implications of having another. Maybe that is why I have a sudden desire to tackle the mountain of stuff in the attic. It feels like a practical use of this limbo time where we are not in a position to actively TTC.

Sorry for long message but even any practical tips on storing/organising welcome. Small bags per age range or just stick everything in bin liners to sort through properly if we had some definite idea re. time of year/gender of a potential second baby.

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Figmentofimagination · 28/08/2022 22:34

Firstly sorry about all your losses.

I'm currently in limbo with the idea of child number 2. My DS is 5. We've kept all of his stuff, because we always talked about having a 2nd, but due to multiple reasons we haven't considered even TTC until recently.

DS's stuff is sorted by age. I got a large plastic storage tub, put a large vacuum bag inside the tub, and filled the bag with each age range. When I sucked the air out of the vacuum bags there was then enough space on top of the bag for other things like steriliser, bottles, toys.

It might not be a brilliant solution but it works for us. We can stack the tubs in the loft and don't have to worry about things getting dusty/mouldy.

LdnReno · 28/08/2022 23:44

It sounds like you do want a second so I would keep all the main stuff you have for a few more years until you decide. If its in the attic then not in the way.
You could have a sort through in the meantime to get rid of stuff that isn't absolutely necessary.
Sorry about your previous losses.

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