Am missing in 95% of pics

[BellatrixBlackLives]

I'm finally doing my sons baby albums. He's now 5 so yes, I have left it extremely late. The pictures are gorgeous but I realised that I have taken beautiful pictures of my son and my husband!! I am there in some newborn pics but now majority of the photos are of my gorgeous son and hubby who looks very hands on! He was not for the first two years - I bloody struggled! I do have a few selfies where I look awful but am putting them in the album anyway. So ladies, make sure you get photos of yourselves with you children even if you think you look awful.

That's what I wish I had done. I didn't take many photos of myself with baby, especially in the newborn phase when looking crap, and now a year later really gutted.

Same sheer, I used to say if I disappeared tomorrow the kids wouldn't remember what I looked like. I was the photographer in this house and apart from selfies with them And a couple of official ones I don't have any at all. Just never occurs to DH to take photos.

I made a point of doing it, but they're selfies - I have less than a handful where someone else has taken a picture of me with DD.

You need "Proof of Mum".

Ask random people to take photos of you with the kids in days out etc. Ask DH and family to do the same.

My photo albums are like this….I have just over 6000 photos printed off and I’m in only a handful of them.

Lots of photos of them with their dad though…..

My eldest son asked me once why I’m never in any of the photos and I asked him to think about who was holding the camera? I asked him to think who loved the moment so much that she wanted to capture it in a photo? I asked him to think about who loved him so much she couldn’t stop taking photos of him?

I explained that I may not be in the photos, but I was still there and it’s only because I loved him so much that I couldn’t be seen.

Opposite in our house - DH is the cameraman (he has a gorgeous 1970s Nikon that is just phenomenal) so he's in barely any photos. His mum and I are on a mission to take more of him from now on!

This is so lovely. Made me well up thinking of it this way.

I was convinced I was going to die when I had DS2. It was a horrendous pregnancy with lots of complications and I know I sound ridiculous now 7 years later. So I made DH take loads of pictures with me and DS1.

My DSIS passed away when DN was 8YO. So I'm very conscious of having pictures for my kids to remember me.

My albums are the same. My DH never thinks to take any photos even now.
When we used to have a video camera you can quite often here me saying' I am here too, but no one will see me as normal'

It doesn't sound ridiculous lovely; I went through a similar thing when COVID hit. I printed out an album of pictures of just me & DD as I wanted her to remember me.

I've been proactive about being in pictures because my DM's self-image is appalling and she actively avoided being in pictures with us. Consequently we have no pictures of her as part of our family unit.

Now my dc are grown up l still have to remind dh to take pictures. He has never spontaneously taken a picture. I always have to remind him. Now my grown up dd takes lots so l am in more
Definitely be more aware of asking and reminding and then printing out a selection now and then or get them made into a book. .

That's brilliant.

Something that needs to be spread far and wide.

So weird as just started a thread about this.

Problem is with asking for photos is that they are obviously a bit staged - the spontaneous sort of ones are just so much nicer - and also when your child is walking it’s incredibly hard to get them to stay still for a photo with Mum. You really need someone who will capture the moments.

Have you looked through his photos? There might be lots of you there.

Start taking selfies OP!

My df was the photographer, only have 2 photos with him in, still makes me very sad

Set up your phone recording video while you play with your child/children and then after you can screenshot it for pictures.

Won't be the best quality but better than nothing. And if you have a newer iPhone or similar they will probably be ok actually.

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Love this!

I also agree that the best photos are the natural ones , my favourite photo from when my son was young was one of us running towards each other in Greenwich park that my husband snapped , you can only see me from side on / behind but it’s brilliant .