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solania · 27/08/2022 19:28

DS 2 yrs (&8 months if that matters) is playing up significantly for DH at the moment. He’s been in a mummy phase for a while anyway but daddy has always been thoroughly involved, changes more than 50% of nappies, has always done the majority of bathtimes etc. DS used to be really cooperative with him, and he’s had his phases of wanting daddy more than me.

Now whenever DH asks him to do anything he either doesn’t hear, doesn’t comply or just rolls over on the floor and won’t move. It isn’t anything negative - he thinks it's funny, and he also uses it as a way to get me to come and look after him. DH is finding it quite frustrating though he does continue to be patient with DS.

Is there anything we can do to encourage him to be less dependent on me or more cooperative with his dad, or is this just a normal toddler stage we're going to have to get through?

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solania · 28/08/2022 09:13

Hopeful bump

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mdh2020 · 28/08/2022 09:43

We went through this when DS was about the same age. He didn’t even like being left with DH if I went out in the evening. I also remember visiting my mother and DS wore his coat all day in case he was going to be left there.

GreenManalishi · 28/08/2022 09:50

It will pass,

he also uses it as a way to get me to come and look after him

I think this is key, he's maybe realising that he's got some tricks up his sleeve and he's using them! Really normal, just keep being kind and consistent, there's a website I've found really helpful loads of times, Aha Parenting, if you fancy checking that out, it's got loads of resource for toddlers

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solania · 28/08/2022 17:33

Thank you so much @GreenManalishi , I will take a look at that website. I'm feeling a bit under-prepared for the toddler years 😅

@mdh2020 that made me laugh! Thanks for the reassurance though. I guess we will just see how it goes!

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BertieBotts · 28/08/2022 17:35

Is DH a bit of a pushover/doesn't want to upset DS or feels unconfident that he will do as he asks?

solania · 28/08/2022 17:46

No, DH is the stricter one! Well, firm, he isn’t mean. I tend to take a more negotiation approach and persuade or tease DS into doing things whereas DH can be a bit more hardline (possibly not entirely realistic about DS's age-capabilities?) so maybe that’s something to do with it? I hasten to add I don’t think I'm soft on DS but I do what it takes to get compliance 😆

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