Over excited/overly enthusiastic child

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I appreciate this could sound terrible but my child gets so excited to play with other children that he becomes a bit much for the children he's playing with and they shun him.

I love that he's so happy and enthusiastic but I also find it really sad that most other children get tired out by him as he can be a bit intense and they then don't want him to play with them anymore. I'm also trying to take into account how the other children must feel when someone is constantly calling their name, chasing after them and just will not give them a moments peace.

I've tried taking him away for a little calm down, asking him to focus on, or play with, a different child for a bit etc but it's got to the point where I dread meeting up with friends children because I can see how it's going to go.

Anyone else experienced this? Any advice?

My son is an only child so I have wondered if it was that although he has attended preschool and is about to start school so he has socialised.

If he's 3 or 4 years old I wouldn't worry at this stage - once he starts school you will get a better idea how he is doing socially. I know he's been in preschool, but things start to even out at primary school age.

When you are around friends' kids you might need to hover and take him to calm down occasionally. You may be accused of helicopter parenting but some kids need a bit more feedback, especially where they don't have a sibling saying "You are annoying. Go away."

No advise but my 2yo is exactly like this (much more so than other 2yos) and I can't see her calming down any time soon, especially as she doesn't have (and won't be getting) any siblings. It's hard to know how to be deal with it - it's very sweet at times but she gets very bossy and overbearing also 😩

no advice

TheYearOfSmallThings, you're right, I do think once he starts school his behaviour in general will change.

I'm meeting friends on Wednesday in the park and will hover over him a bit more. I may also think of some excuses to take him away every now and then- like popping to the cafe for a drink etc. My friends are really good and kind so they've never said anything about their kids being annoyed by him (even though I can see they are) so I may approach the subject right at the beginning as well so they know why I'm hovering over more.

Thanks!