Don't want to be a mum today

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Hi
Struggling today. My 7 month old won't stop whining and crying and it's driving me mad. I'm a single mum and it's too much now. The house is getting so messy and I never have time to clean it. I have complete sensory overload with the noise and I hate being touched by her. I usually love having her but the past two days have been awful. I want to run away and not have to care anymore. I've just put a video on for her and I've run upstairs crying my eyes out

It there someone's house you can drive to? Even if its a long way, going to a friend or family members house may help. Or can they cone yo you and have baby for a while?

It's relentless isn't it? I have a 7 month old too and luckily have a supportive DH but I'm finding mat leave so hard. She was up 4am-6am this morning! I was breastfeeding in a dark 27 degree room whilst she was biting, clawing, kicking and I was silently crying. Does your baby sleep ok and are you getting enough rest?

Reach out - any friends or family who can pop in even for an hour so you can go for a solo walk or have a bath?

7 months is a bastard of an age! I struggled here too.

I remember 7 months was where any kind of energy I'd had/adrenaline I'd been running on/will to get up and keep doing it ran out for me. I remember a particular day on my hands and knees on the floor sobbing over some sweet potato.
It's hard!!!!!!! It's not you failing, it really is this hard. Not in a 'quite challenging', but in a 'this feels IMPOSSIBLE but I have to do it anyway' way.
You are allowed low points. They will tip into more manageable/high points soon. It's the nature of the beast.
I know it's hard, you are doing so well. Big hug.

I have a 7mo and and a 17mo so huge sympathies, I’ve never experienced sensory overload until just recently myself and it’s awful. And 100% relate to the house being a mess, which for me makes me feel very claustrophobic.
Is she happy now? If she is, put her in her highchair/bouncer/jumperoo in front of TV and give yourself 1 tidying task to do.
If shes not happy right now go back to that later and get her straight in her pushchair and go for a walk / or in the car to go get a drive through coffee. Everything feels calmer outside the 4 walls of the house.

Babies are hard work! It's OK to leave her for down for a few mins to catch a breather if you're highly stressed, as long as she is safe. Maybe pop her in her pram and take her out for a long walk? It will get you out of the house, frsh air for both of you, a bit of exercise and you won't see the mess at home... I can remember a lot of days like that when mine were small..

I found 6-12 months really hard with both of mine - it's just relentless with milk feeds, weaning, naps, them being furious they can't bloody move. Both of mine liked household stuff to play with (still do) so a treasure box of random crap from around the house would often keep attention more than a toy.

Agree with getting out for some fresh air, I'd go and pick up a coffee or a small treat for you, then come back and tackle one job round the house. Do another one or two later and then you've done loads.

Sometimes it gets like this, I agree with above, can you get out together for some fresh air or ask someone to have her, even for a half an hour so you can get out? My kids have been super tired from the heat, so maybe a walk with the pram might give her an extra nap and you could have a bit of mindless scrolling on your phone if you find a bench in the park? Re your house, I think it’s impossible to do everything all the time. And some days you’ve just got to keep it dead simple, I call them my ‘fed and not dead’ days as that’s all I aim for.
big hugs, it does all pass, it is all a phase - promise x

Is she teething? Would Calpol help?

I totally relate by the way. I sometimes plonk him on the baby gym mat or in his jumperoo then put ear plugs in/headphones on while I watch him just to get some peace and quiet.

We all get days like this. I’ve had loads. I’m not a single mum, but my husband works offshore so I’m alone a lot and know how overwhelming and all consuming it can be.

I hope tomorrow is a better day for you x

Hi Op, ask for help,to watch DD,to clean up etc. Neighbors/friends/ family, anyone, they will understand.

You are an absolute hero for being a single mum X

@Scottishbump85 same as me. It's very difficult isn't it

@mrssunshinexxx yup! Some days are really really taxing. Other days are better. So hard to just always be “on” x

agree and as much as my husband appreciates me as a wife and mother and the fact I'm enabling him to start his business and work away it irritates me that he will truly never know what it really feels like to be a stay at home dad doing it all @Scottishbump85 x

@mrssunshinexxx oh they’ve no bloody idea!! Xx